WIBU to send her to nursery?

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Dd (3.7) has been dozing on and off since 3.20. She woke to wee (which she will BOT do on her own at all. She insists that I come and watch) and has been unable to go back to sleep since. Her on and off whinging and fake crying has woken DS 18 months and he is now wide awake and not all that happy about it.
I am refusing to let her get up as I am trying to re-teach that she stays in bed until the sun comes up regardless of what time (with exception of illness).
She is supposed to go to nursery today. She goes 9-4 and could have a nap there.
Of course she is going to be exhausted by lack of sleep and then nursery is exhausting anyway.
WWYD? Send her anyway? Or keep her home?

If she's adamant on wearing skirts and dresses, you could start sticking her in skirts and dresses at home to get her used to lifting her skirt up to go toilet? You might already do all this though.

I always send mine to nursery unless ill. They should milk these nap times at nursery whilst they can

When was she born? Is she September, so the oldest in her class? Or summer born so youngest?

The hair thing honestly most reception kids can't either pony tail/plait and if it falls out it falls out or those fabric head bands.

I don't think it's a milestone thing dissapointed I don't think it's because a lot of school state hair must be tied back at all times and the OP is worried that her DD might get in to trouble but I think at reception even year 1 it will be acceptable it might fall out and not be able too redone.

On the tiredness and naps I know a few summer borns who would either come in late or leave at lunch time on Fridays until the Easter holidays in reception just because it was so tiring. Maybe equire if it's possible.

You might find when she sees other girls in trousers she changes her mind about it.

Also September is 6 months away she may well learn how to cope with socks etc by then

July, she will be one of the youngest. Her birthday will always just be out of term time.

I do put her in skirts here and she is mostly ok, but she needs a lot of help with tights.
Socks she can put on but often twisted. We have 6 months to figure it out completely.

I think she will simply love school. She's likely to go to the main one here which is a big school, one of the biggest in North London. 3 form entry so they take a lot of kids in the area. Massively over subscribed but we are catchment and it's the only non religious school in the immediate area.
Most of her little nursery friends and our local friends will be going there so she I'll be with kids she knows. And it's walking distance so that a bonus!!

She is a very particular little girl. She likes to do things 'properly' what she deems properly anyway and she likes to be sure of things and takes her time and is quite methodical.
This is my first child so I have no school experience. I'm probably no different from anyone else, worrying about my little precious flower going off to school.
She will be fine and I will spend all day panicking!!

My daughter has been at full time school since she was 3.10 (she's 5.5 now and in reception). They prefer hair to be tied back, but we rarely do - probably once a week if that. And about half of those times she'll come home with it undone or one of the staff will have done something different to it.

What is with schools and these ridiculous edicts? I struggle with tights at 38!

If it makes you feel any better, I was at least half way through high school before I could put my hair up myself, and that was just a pony tail. My mum did it every day before school and if she wasn't there (friends wedding, hospital etc) I wore it loose

I can still only do a pony tail in my own hair, or straighten it.

I can do plaits and stuff in other people's hair but not my own

Just asked mum and she said she put it in plait(s) on pe day, flatter against the head and can't just be knocked out by a t-shirt

My daughter's hair is so fine even a French plait will fall out during the day.

I'd send her to nursery (and have done with DD at school), and just let the teacher know she's tired. Even as late as Year1, some of her classmates had been known to nap in the story corner

At school the teachers are usually really good at helping the little ones with getting dressed before/after PE and sorting them out (doing laces etc). DD is 6.5yo (Year2) and still can't tie laces and takes quite a lot of effort to do her own tights.

I used to send DD in socks on PE days and a skirt, rather than a pinafore and tights, as she found she could manage these better. It's only now in Year2 that I don't worry about it so much, but the teacher and TA still help the children.

DD's hair is also pretty messy by the end of the day, she can't do her own clips let alone hair tie. However now the girls are 6-7yo, they like to do each other's clips so sometimes another girl has popped them back in for her. I used to gel it quite a bit when DD was in reception/Year1, just to keep it up for the whole day.