AIBU to be really pissed off with my BIL?

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I'm so annoyed. BIL had arranged to take my twin 13-year-olds and my 8-year-old to an event tomorrow after school. He said he'd take them for something to eat then to the event (a one off thing at the local swimming pool). BIL is, to the children, the best thing since sliced bread so they've been excited for weeks. All of the children are excellent swimmers, but you have to be 9 to get in alone so 8yo needs an adult and DD2 has epilepsy and a couple of other issues that mean I wouldn't be happy with her going without an adult. It's a 20 minute drive away and was planned well over a month ago when the event was first advertised.

He has text me today to say he has a date so can't take them, but he'll make it up to them next week.

My DH (his brother) is working away on a long stint (12 weeks) so I'm home alone. I'm 7 1/2 months pregnant and also have a 2 1/2 year old so me taking them isn't possible as toddlers can't go (it's like an activity obstacle course thingy in the pool).

So I get the fun jobs of telling them they are not going and dealing with them tomorrow when lots of other kids they know are going and they can't.

I also have the fun of trying to decide if DD1 can go with her friends, which seems unfair on DD2. I could take the chance and let DD2 go as well, she is allowed to go to lots of places, but I don't like her in water without an adult, but that still leaves the issue of 8yo who simply can't go without an adult and I can't take him. 16yo DS who could have taken 8yo is on a school trip.

So tempted to tell him to phone and tell the kids so he can deal with the chorus' of "But eeeeveryonnnneeee is going..."

I know for a fact he wouldn't dream of cancelling a pre-arranged event with an adult so I think it's really quite rude of him to do it to the kids. Although at the same time he's not obliged to take them anywhere.

Thank God for his flatmate, he was being a dick.
Good that he's taking them now but just be wary of him pulling this crap again in future.

I'm glad he's come good. A decent woman would find it a positive that he keeps his word to kids. Next time - if there is one - can you find a sitter for the toddler and take the rest yourself?

Liney It's their first date so I don't think he'd fancy that even if I thought it was appropriate (I'd rather he knew at least a bit about her before introducing her to the kids!).

Jux There's no-one else available at such short notice. Normally I would have done that. Maybe not this time though as I'm 7 1/2 months and have SPD so getting in and out of the pool (ladders rather than the walk in pool) would be a bit of a nightmare.

I was mostly so annoyed because it was his idea. The kids had seen it, but knew with DH away they couldn't go. They are really good about things like that as although they miss some things with DH being away they also know that he then has 4 or 6 weeks off when he comes back and they can do a lot of stuff (and it was how we afforded Florida last year which is fresh in their minds still). DD1 might have had a bit of a whinge to see if she could go without DD2, but they wouldn't have been hyper excited. He seen the poster, he asked them if they wanted to go and then he was going to let them down so late on. Which would have been gutting for them because he doesn't normally let them down.

All is well that ends well.