To ask my neighbour to slow down if he's going to use my driveway?

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Our next door neighbour has a lodger who likes to reverse park in to their driveway. Nothing wrong with that, very sensible since we live on the main village road.

We have a driveway that is double width. If DH isn't home the neighbour will pull forward in to DH's space and use it to reverse back in to his. I don't have a problem with this particularly but he's a very fast driver and hurtles toward me in our sitting room making me nervous that one day he's going to plough straight in to the house.

I'm also a childminder so have lots of children's safety to consider.

AIBU to set conditions on his use of our driveway or does it sound a bit petty?

YANBU, this would make me worried too. Can you park your car in or across your DH's space - would that stop him from being able to use your drive?

RudeElf I have no idea what tangent you are on, I've said I don't use that space for minding. I have an enclosed rear garden, this is at the front on a main road.

My tangent is that you are now in possession of the knowledge that this guy speeds onto your drive, a drive where you operate a childcare business from and where minded children and/or there parents could be when he does it. To not prevent that is very lax. I will hazard a guess that you didnt inform your inspector that this guy was doing this on your drive. The fact your drive leads onto a main road is another reason to have gates. You cant get electric ones that mean you dont need to leave the car.

I can't afford bloody electric gates! I work in early years, we're all skint!

Oh well, ordinary gates then.

Thanks for the idea but we won't be getting gates. I'm in and out lots and dh is a shift worker getting home or leaving at all hours. We'd never bother shutting them I'm sure.

I think I'll have a go at parking my car across the drive long ways. It won't cover it completely but hopefully awkward enough that he'll stop.

Well you definitely need to explicitly tell this guy he cant do it. Its not worth it if he hits a minded child or parent and has had your permission to be there by you asking him just to slow down rather than not do it.

I will yes. In fact I'll speak to the landlady too so she's aware. She's nice so I think she'll be helpful.

I would be informing him that he is not allowed on your property at all.