DH and I have 2 dds, age 5 and 3.
I have felt for a long time (pretty much since dd2 was born) that our family is not yet complete. I really thought we'd have had another dc by now. Dh is less convinced and has been having some health issues which has put him off the thought of another dc as he's unsure if/how it would affect his condition (with the sleeplessness etc).
Anyway, we have been going around in circles. Dh doesn't like talking about it as he says it always feels like it's me vs. him and that I'm just waiting for him to change his mind.
I decided a couple of months ago to drop the idea and to pursue a different career direction, as this is something that had been put on hold in my head whilst the possibility of more dc was still there. And I've come to realise that just because we're not having more dc now, doesn't mean that we won't further down the line. And even if we don't, I love our 2 dds very much and feel so lucky to have them. But the feeling that someone is missing just won't go away.
Sorry, that was quite a rambly bit of background.
My current issue is that both dds have suddenly started saying that they want us to have a baby. Dh went away with work 5 days ago and they have mentioned it every day since he went. Dd2 won't stop going on about it, says she will give the baby lots of cuddles and help me change the baby's nappies etc. I know it's ridiculous to think about having another dc just because the older siblings request it, and obviously I would never entertain that thought. It just upsets me that I really would like another and I'm having to deal with these conversations without the support of dh while he's away.
AIBU to be sad about this? And what the heck do I say to dc? At the moment I've just said that it's not always possible for people to just decide that's they're going to have a baby. They don't understand how baby-making works yet
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cheapandcheerful · 14/03/2016 13:54
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