New next door neighbours... help

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We have new next door neighbours they brought the house 3 weeks ago..

It's a young male and he came and introduced himself a few days after moving in, and let us know that this particular evening it was going to be quite noisy but he knew we had a young dd so wouldn't be working too late on the house (complete refurb by the sounds of things)

We understood this is to sort of be expected he finished working at 7.30pm and all was fine. Dd goes to bed at 7pm so wasn't too much past her bedtime.

However, all this week he has been working on the house, drilling, hammering, using all kinds of power tooles up until gone 10pm. I have some how held it in but I am loosing the plot. I am 38 weeks pregnant not sleeping at night as it is, dd is being disturbed making her grouchy!

I am sat here at 8pm on a Saturday night listening to him banging away! Dd can't sleep and I can't relax! I slept for a total of 4 hours last night and I just want to chill before I try and go to bed.

Please give me permission to go and tell him to shut the hell up!!

Annoys me even more that he has been out all day and waits until 7pm before even starting any work!!

LifeofI the question OP should be asking herself then is does she mind him doing it every other day or weekend and waiting for the jobs to be done or over and done with now?

Why not reach a compromise with him and say all quiet by 9?

Explain nicely that it's disturbing you and starting to drive you a bit mad. Tell him you get that he's working and trying to get the house done and you sympathise and don't want to be a grouch...so can he agree on 9 as a cut off point for hammering or power tools?

I'm sure he'll be ok. You could even try for 8.

Please give me permission to go and tell him to shut the hell up!!

Why do you need anyone's permission? Just knock on the door and ask him to stop.

op, your new neighbour is being an arse. an inconsiderate arse. just politely let know know its not acceptable. and as for noise stopping at 9pm, pictish are you for fucking real? on what planet is that ok?

i feel for you my neighbour works all day and has for the last few nights been tap tap tapping followed by banging noises then it stops then tap tap tap again it's just loud enough to effect the tv volume but not loud enough to need ear defenders! i think they took the hint tonight as we buggered off on foot to do the shopping in tesco we have just got home and all is quiet!

I think that 9pm is okay. There will be a newborn baby soon enough that will probably disturb the neighbour, it's best to try and keep on good terms and remember that we might disturb other people too.

9pm is not okay. If he wants to renovate his house, then he should take time off work and do it between the hours of 8am to 7pm.

That's very generous.

It's personal opinion though and OP might need some goodwill in the next few months, it's give and take living in close proximity to other people.

9PM is okay, OP will be disturbing him with the baby soon enough.

I feel for both of you. It's shit to be massively pregnant and fed up
With noise but it's also shit to try and refurb a house when you work. I would tolerate it but go round and ask him to stfu when it gets later

He should stop by 7pm. If the poor lamb wants to put his feet up after work and have his tea, then doing up his house is going to take longer, isn't it?

We have new next door neighbours they brought the house 3 weeks ago...

If the new neighbours actually brought the house with them YABU.

He probably doesn't realise its causing such a problem for you. Although if its a short term thing it might be better to let him get on with it now, otherwise it will take longer and feel worse for you when the baby is here.

limited and will your lifestyle choice of having dc only be audible between 8am and 7pm? Or will he be expected to accept all the usual noise that comes from dc even considerate parents?

If we had neighbours I would think you were talking about my DH OP. He is constantly drilling, chain sawing, hammering..... It drives me nuts!!

He did this when we had a new born and he wouldn't even shut up when I asked him to so you may not get a sympathetic response from your neighbour.

You will get him back with the newborn baby noise in a few weeks.

(Try to look on the bright side, with all this noise your bun has to put up with, he or she will probably be a brilliant little sleeper).

The Council will have guidelines re what is acceptable noise, so check your Council site before saying anything.

who refurbs a house with no concern to neighbours? i'd personally stick to quite jobs in the evening, painting etc. i mean why would you be so obnoxious to do noisy jobs in the evening? unless it was some kind of emergency? its shocking that so many of you think this is ok. i despair sometimes, i really do. its just common decency to keep disturbance to your neighbours to a minimum.

I feel your pain OK. Neighbour is doing new kitchen works but doent start drilling until gone 7.30 when Dd goes to bed. He plays the didgeridoo for over an hour before that.

One poster has said two weeks
I can't see how a complete refurb can be done in two weeks even if full time.

Is it a semi detached house?

Liquid
He plays the didgeridoo?

I think I'm going to buy my neighbour a box of chocolates tomorrow...

I don't think it's out of order for you to ask him not to work after 8pm and also ask how much longer he's going to be doing DIY.

Lurkedforever1 My neighbour has a toddler and a newborn. I sometimes hear the little girl running about but don't hear a squeak out of the baby - so much so that I didn't realise she'd given birth for a week.

The noise of small children cannot be legislated for. Building noise can. It's done between 8am and 7pm - and that's bloody generous. Professional builders usually stop at around 4pm.

You either take time off work or you get it done at weekends within those hours and accept that your dream home will take longer to achieve.

I've always considered it perfectly acceptable to do DIY, hoovering etc. up to 9pm and possibly a little later on weekends.

Very shortly you will have a newborn which will quite likely cause comparable noise (if not worse) at all times of the day and night.

If I were you I'd suck it up and let him get on with it and get yourself some ear plugs if necessary. Far better for a few days of noise than weeks of it because he doesn't feel like he can work past 7pm.

If he doesn't start until 7pm then why don't you put your DC to sleep a bit earlier, say 6:30 then she's fast asleep by the time he starts and hopefully won't wake. Surely you don't go to sleep before 10pm anyway

Next time there's a thread asking what terms annoy you on MN, remind me to say 'ear plugs'.