Dog in the garden - who is BU?

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We have a medium size breed puppy who is full of energy. He gets walked enough but still enjoys time spent exploring our garden.

Dh however doesn't want him in the garden as he wants to have it looking perfect. He bought a pen which is a big rectangle shape and is big enough for puppy to happily do his business in but he only wants puppy to be in his pen when outside and never in the rest of the garden.

I feel this is unfair on the puppy and can't see why he's not allowed to play in the garden under supervision.

Who is BU?

Show him this thread. Although your DH will probably focus on the one post which says, "put your DH before the dog" and not on "put DH in the pen and let the dog in the garden" and all the other posts like it!

This is nuts.

If you want a dog you treat it like a dog not a caged animal.

As a puppy it needs supervising outside anyway.

During this time you train it not to wreck the garden

www.petsathome.com/shop/en/pets/pee-training-post-for-dogs-and-puppies

Training is the key.
Toys so he doesn't become interested in the flower beds.

We have a rescue dog. Not destructive in the garden at all. Only problem was he did have 'his' spot where he liked to do his wees. Thought I had box blight till I worked it out.

We have two dogs, one exclusively outside the other inside when we are home and outside when we are not. We also have lovely gardens. The two are not mutually exclusive. 🐶

Our dog trashed more stuff inside than out....slippers/shoes and food off the kitchen counter come to mind.... Once nicked my sirloin steak off my plate and rushed into the garden with it. Not to bury it, to eat it. . Fortunately I chased after him, wrestled it from him, rinsed it and shoved it back in the pan. Was fine, just a bit ragged round the edge. he wasn't a bit interested in the herbaceous borders.

He is unreasonable. For all the reasons said.

Now onto important matters...puppy photo?

He is bu and a cruel twat. Puppies trash stuff, and if you aren't prepared for that you shouldn't have one.

What's with this new culture of people buying dogs and expecting them to live like goldfish in nicely contained spaces? They're pack animals ffs.

I feel sorry for this puppy

Your DH is BVVVVVU

Depends very much on the size of the pen. It could be bigger than many back gardens.

I also feel sorry for the puppy.

Dh needs to let it go - puppy far more important than pristine garden. If not, then he really shouldn't have got a dog.

I don't think your husband understands how to meet a dogs needs, can you talk to the breeder about rehoming the puppy while it still has a chance of finding a suitable home.

I had a dog, not a puppy, but about 3 years old, he was a rescue springer spaniel but perfectly trained, except that if given free reign in the garden he would dig up the flower beds and lawns. I compromised by blocking off the main garden with small fence and gate, and allowed him to run on a paved area by the house.When I was in the garden he was allowed to play but I could stop him from digging. As he got older he no longer needed to be kept out of the garden, as he learned it was bad to dig. With a little bit of reason you can have a nice garden and a dog.

I always think he was the best decision I ever made, he died at seventeen and I have never had another dog as I am doubtful another dog would be as perfect. I am tempted though

queenMab99, you sound too nice to be wasted not having a dog. Of course it won't be the same, but does it have to be?

Why would I give him back?
Showed dh the thread and he's seen the error of his ways. He'll always be precious over it but it's tough shit, he shouldn't have bought a puppy! Like I said he's quite intelligent (but very stubborn) so I'm sure he'll get the hang of not destroying everything eventually.

How is it cruel not to give the dog the run of the garden? As long as it's getting enough exercise that sounds fine.

"he's quite intelligent (but very stubborn)"
This is DH or the dog?

it's all about supervision

leave a child unsupervised with a set of crayons and your sofa and walls are going to be redecorated

same with a dog in the garden, but obv take the crayons away from him supervise him and he's not going to wreck the flowerbeds.

I presume that the own is for unsupervised time in the garden though? So the dog can be out there when he likes without having to be watched. This seems fine to me.