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Should baby drink Coke or go thirsty?

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FoundDoveInaSoaplessPlace · 12/03/2016 04:37

We are travelling in SE Asia with a baby and toddler.
Yesterday our planned journey of a 2 hour drive and 30 minute ferry took a total of nine hours. Because of the road delays ( road works and further on a bad accident) we missed the ferry and had to get into a small local boat.
It was hot and humid all day but we got through it ok until the final leg on the boat. Our 12 mo baby got very thirsty and the only drink left was a new bottle of Diet Coke. Baby got extremely agitated and our friend poured some into her bottle as I was holding onto our toddler.

DH who was holding her refused to give it to her and said she would have to wait for clean water. She screamed for 15 minutes until she wore herself out and fell asleep. It was dark and the sea was choppy so I couldn't stand up to give it to her.

DH is extremely anti sugar but AIBU to think that he could have put his principles aside on this one occasion?

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Itsmine · 12/03/2016 15:33

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BernardlookImaprostituterobotf · 12/03/2016 15:44

Thank goodness it was just me being crap! I had started to worry I'd gone peculiar. Thank you for linking Wine

Ubik1 · 12/03/2016 16:19

There are quite a few of these type of threads runnjng at the moment - of the 'first world problems' kind which allow us to be deliciously cross and self righteous

I'm starting to wonder about them.

feudebois · 12/03/2016 17:28

Me too Ubik. I feel strongly that Somethings Up.

Original poster
FoundDoveInaSoaplessPlace · 13/03/2016 07:15

Final post.

Thank you for all the replies but people's imaginations have run away a bit.

The thread title is not ' my baby was sick because my DH would rather her get dehydrated than drink Coke'.

As my OP said - the crossing was 30 minutes. DH has plenty of sailing experience, knew baby had had lots of fluids and decided if there was only Coke to hand for a few minutes, she wasn't drinking that.

I hate night sailing, what little experience of it I have, hence being more worried than he was.

There was no argument - if I thought she really needed it I would have made him give it to her.

I just would have given it to her without question.

OP posts:
allowlsthinkalot · 13/03/2016 08:11

You were cruel and dangerous. I found your post upsetting reading. My nine year old has never had coke but I'd have given it to a one year old in this situation.

NightWanderer · 13/03/2016 08:53

knew baby had had lots of fluids

This thread gets weirder and weirder...

DownWithTitchenor · 13/03/2016 08:55

The baby had had lots of fluid - so what the problem then?

kittybiscuits · 13/03/2016 08:57

Why did you post then OP?

2016IsANewYearforMe · 13/03/2016 08:59

You've changed your tune OP. In the OP you describe the end of a long 9 hour journey on a hot day with an extremely thirsty baby. In that situation, how could you, or your husband know the baby had enough fluids?

phequer · 13/03/2016 09:00

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Cabrinha · 13/03/2016 09:03

Well now you're just lying OP, because you started in your first post saying that your baby was "very thirsty" which is at odds with the new claim she'd had plenty of fluids.

What you mean is: you have been told that you let your baby down to appease your husband.

And you'd rather backtrack and lie than face up to that.

Poor baby.

Scoopmuckdizzy · 13/03/2016 09:30

So your baby wasn't extremely thirsty and verging in dehydration, rather she was OK but just fancied a drink when the only thing available was a bit of coke? And then had cried because she wasn't allowed any before eventually falling asleep?

LovelyFriend · 13/03/2016 09:48

So baby was a bit tired and cranky and had a wee cry before falling asleep. Sound absolutely normal to me

Rosiep10 · 13/03/2016 09:51

I'm sorry that anyone feels they have the right to tell you not to travel because of one isolated incident - ignore those people. Agree your husband was being a fool. Any hydration is good in an emergency.

LagunaBubbles · 13/03/2016 09:58

Eh? So having lots of sailing experience means you know a small baby isn't at risk from dehydration? How does that work? Confused

curren · 13/03/2016 10:15

What is you want OP the story has changed.

You had water, baby was dehydrated and it was 30 minute journey. Sounds more like you wanted to give your child Diet Coke just to keep the baby occupied. We all do similar. The child didn't desperately need a drink.

May be your dh was thinking a small child having drank a load of caffeine wasn't going to be fun when you got off the boat and knew the baby was not dehydrated and would be fine until the boat docked.

XiCi · 13/03/2016 10:15

Sailing experience? What has that to do with anything? Or did you miss your ferry and then your DH commandeered a yacht?
And if your baby had had loads of fluids why even start a thread in the first place.

All very odd

curren · 13/03/2016 10:16

Any hydration is good in an emergency.

Op has just said it wasn't an emergency

curren · 13/03/2016 10:16

That should say your baby wasn't dehydrated.

Rosiep10 · 13/03/2016 10:19

Basically this thread is just angry people wanting to have a go. Too much of this on mumsnet.

Bambambini · 13/03/2016 10:40

Pile on! Ha mumsnet loves a pile on!

angielou123 · 13/03/2016 10:59

I would have given it to her, especially as it was diet coke.

glowfrog · 13/03/2016 11:45

FoundDove

Your DH was very very unreasonable. An idiot, in fact. A few sips of Diet Coke for a 12 month old would have done her no harm in the circumstances. Dehydration is indeed very dangerous.

Am glad all was OK in the end.

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