Long time lurker, first time poster.
MN advice much appreciated!
I've been with my DP for 6 years. We live in London, and have always rented, but the dream (ha) is to eventually be in a position to buy a (skanky tiny) flat and stop renting. To that end, I opened a help-to-buy ISA a few weeks ago. Before I opened it I spoke to DP about him doing the same, and he agreed it was a good idea. Weeks later, and despite my nagging, he still hasn't done this.
I asked him about it again tonight, and he basically backtracked on everything we discussed. Says he knows nothing about it, needs advice, doesn't see the point yadda yadda. I am now pissed off. We had a pretty big argument about it. I thought we'd discussed this and were on the same page about trying to get on the property ladder, but apparently not.
He said he doesn't see the value, and wants to keep his cash ISA (I'm assuming he has actual money in this, he's pretty shit with saving/bill paying etc so ???). I said we need to plan for our future, and I feel like I'm the only one doing that at the moment, and he basically gave me a load of crap about pressuring him and not giving him time to deal with it. I'm very keen for our ISAs to come out around the same time in case we buy, and I don't understand why he keeps putting it off. We both work full time, but it feels as if he thinks that his job means he doesn't have to deal with any of this because he's "busy". This is particularly annoying because I've recently taken a job with much more responsibility than he has, and can can still ensure I deal with money/paperwork issues that affect us both in a timely manner.
So as not to drip feed, I deal with all bills, shopping, vet arrangements for our poorly cat etc. He does bugger all - I am definitely the "adult" in the relationship.
AIBU to expect him to pull his finger out of his arse and sort this one fecking thing out?