Aibu to accept this holiday?

[SloaneRanger88]

Dh is a managing director at the company his dad owns. Over the past 24 months the company has expanded and is having to relocate, the extra work has meant dh is putting in 60-70hours each week, works weekends and is under a lot of stress.

His parents suggested dh, DC and me have a holiday before the actual moving date, and said we could pay for it from the company account.

So our holiday is all booked and DD was talking to her cousin about it. Cousin is also going on holiday soon and they were telling each other what they were going to do. Que sil butting in and telling DD 'some of us have to pay for own holidays' when DD mentions jet skis.

Is this holiday unreasonable considering dh works fucking hard and the money in that account reflects that?

Oh siblings! I bet SIL thinks her brother is the favoured child and resents anything the parents give him which they don't give to her.

There are several ways of handling this.

You could resent every irritating remark.

You could rise serenely above it.

You could call her on it e.g. in response to the situation you describe "Do you resent us having this holiday?" Don't get offended by her response, ask more questions to encourage her to explore whether she has a real grievance or is just being childish.

While your DH does probably deserve the holiday, which could be seen as a 'bonus' from the company, (and therefore should be taxable) I can see that your SIL may feel a bit put out, as it's not really treating siblings the same.

If it's genuinely being paid for from your DH's dividends, then he's paying for it himself anyway, so SIL shouldn't feel put out.

Working for family usually does come with it's own special set of problems! If it was a bonus or dividends from any other company, there'd be no issue, but it gets more complicated when family are involved.

I think your husband has worked very hard and deserves the holiday.

She is just jealous, it would be differnt if show was also working at the company but didn't geta holiday

Was SIL offered the same opportunities at the company that your DH was?

Or maybe the sil thinks it's ridiculous the company is risking paying for a holiday and knows the dh won't be paying tax on it

Is SIL a shareholder too?

All shareholders have to get the same dividends unless there are different classes of shareholder.

If he has a dividend from a co he is a shareholder in then he can do as he wishes with his own money.

If, as seems more likely, the parents/company are paying then obvs the sister is bitter - and people are right, it needs to be declared as a benefit in kind for tax purposes. (Dividends are also taxed, depending on your overall income).

So, sil was U for speaking to DD like that. But how your holidays are paid for is your business and someone has been U to have been disclosing that.

That's not exactly what's happening, curren. You do know that, don't you?

That's not exactly what's happening, curren. You do know that, don't you?

No one knows.

Op said company was paying for it, then it's was out of dividends.

My point is that if the sil has been told they are getting a free holiday on th company she could be aware of the tax implications.

People are speculating about she is annoyed by it.

Somewhere along the lines someone has told sil it's being paid for by the company. Why would someone tell her that if it's not true?

Paying for it with dividends is different to being allowed to pay for it with the company account. I don't know why you're discussing how it's been paid for with your daughter.

If it's paid for by the company, the op's husband will have a tax liability

If it's paid for out of a dividend that's his money to do what he wants with - therefore no 'accepting' to be done