To be frustrated, and wonder why the baby weight isnt coming off more quickly?

[Runningupthathill82]

So. I put on a huge four stone when pregnant with DD. I've lost two of it but now weight loss has stalled - and I feel shit.

I look like an inflated version of my old self and am covered in flab. DH doesn't find my new shape attractive, he's said as much,very clearly. He hasn't kissed me or shown any affection since the birth. And he's right - I'm very,very far from attractive.

The frustrating thing is, I'm working hard to try and get the excess weight off, but the scales haven't moved in almost three weeks. If anything, I've gained slightly. I'm doing MFP and exercising a fair amount too.

I know I should be enjoying my new baby and not worrying so much about this, but being fat and unfit is really getting me down and has massively knocked my confidence. I don't feel like me anymore. I used to be a runner, now I'm a lumbering wreck who can barely knock out 10K.

I was struggling confidence-wise anyway as I couldn't breastfeed this time round, which made me feel like an utter failure. I'd rather not be a fat failure too.

So. AIBU to be frustrated and unhappy in myself? And AIBU to ask for any advice as to why the weight might not be going more quickly?

Thank you.

Albert - he's pretty good, yes. He sees to DS in a morning while I feed DD, and usually does his bath and bed. He also does DD's last feed at night, so I can get an early night.

OP said 1200cal net, which means after exercise. Eg. Eat 2000, exercise 800, still left with 1200 for the day.

Give yourself time. If you can already run 10km, you must be pretty fit (and I can only imagine what you were doing before!!). Pregnancy is traumatic for the body, even for those who have a fairly easy time of it.

You are lacking sleep right now, your energy is being used elsewhere. Who knows what's going on with hormones.

Have a break, stop staring at the scales (says me, ha!) and if you can try not to think about it, who knows.

By the way, your husband is an arsehole. He should be giving you a break so you can rest, not get your supposed barge arse out on the track so you can be thin enough for him again. Fuck that for a joke.

OP your DD is about 7 weeks old! You're knackered, your body has been through enormous upheaval, you're pushing yourself to a ridiculous extent when frankly you ought to still be recovering, and your husband is being a total cunt, withholding affection from the mother of his child. Your body is probably clinging on to your (I suspect minimal - were you very slim pre pregnancy?) fat stores to try to fuel itself through this stressful exhausting time. Give yourself an actual rest and give your husband a kick up the arse! You poor thing. You must be so tired and unhappy.

Your husband is a prick. You've just had his child and he can't be affectionate with his wife who he loves? What a cunt!

1200? That's pretty low. How tall are you?

Some advice here is massively unhelpful. Probably best not to encourage someone to have even bigger resentment against partner as well as hating yourself for being overweight. Perhaps set some smaller goals and check your portion sizes- usually this is the reason weight isn't moving- we trick ourselves into thinking we're eating less than we really are. Starvation mode is a myth- forget it. Most important is to be your own best friend. Be nice to yourself! Perhaps you have withdrawn from intimacy because you're feeling fat? Maybe DP would like to be let in? No one can make you feel better if you refuse to be good to yourself. Decide to stop being a victim.

You could lose 15 stone of useless flab very quickly by kicking the bastard out...