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I've recently announced that I'm having DC2. Just a quick 'we are expecting a baby in September 2016' on Facebook.
Comments include
"Good luck with 2 under 2"
"That wasn't very well planned a month before DD's birthday"

And today at work, a colleague who I know had her DD via IVF (maybe that's a factor) "people who get pregnant by accident" with a throttling action.

AIBU to think these aren't normal responses? Or is this normal?

No...my boss announced it for me on our weekly team conference call as I hate speaking on it. This is just a colleague.

Congratulations!

People are arses. We had loads of the 'haven't you got a TV?' comments too when I had DC2 (22 month gap).

Absolutely true about people have no idea what others are going through, and then feeling that they can comment as they wish.

Congratulations OP Don't let silly comments like that get to you, it's not worth it at such a happy time. When I announced I was having my second boy, one relative's immediate response was 'Oh no!Poor DS1!Not mummy's baby boy anymore!'

Firstly congratulations ....
I'm expecting dd3... I had some and some very hurtful comments from my very best friend of all people .... so I can definitely relate. I have DD (6) DS(2) and expecting DD anytime now. My so called BF of 20 years turned nastily with over opinionated comments and may as well have offered a lift to the abortion clinic .... Not nice and completely uncalled for! I've learnt now to ignore what the others say ... If your happy that's all that matters .... Life's to short so make the mist of it with those you love xx

Congratulations OP.
Ignore the comments on Facebook. Some individuals have no social skills or tact.

I wouldn't have thought the comment about 2 under 2 was a bad comment. The others are weird, but truth is 2 under 2 is often hard work, and just as you would wish someone luck with many other things that were going to be tough going at times, you'd wish someone luck.

It also depends who's saying it. I had 2 in 16 months. If I were to wish you luck, it would be in the knowledge of some of the good and bad that lies ahead of you, and would hopefully seem more sincere than someone childless saying the same thing.

Congratulations! People will say all sorts of things. When someone I knew found out I was expecting twins, she said, not in a jokey way at all 'Oh God, you poor thing, I'd kill myself'...just smile and let it wash over you.

Congratulations!! I have 4 children.

3 all born within 3 years!! People said the awful things... 'You need a telly' etc... Now all I hear is 'gosh you have your hands full' my response is 'full of love and laughter'

Seriously enjoy this!! It's great fun having a few close together 😁

You are only 1 month off the textbook holy grail '2 year age gap' that seems to be a mandated norm for family formation so I have no idea why anyone would suggest it was an accident or too close together. I have a 3 year age gap and people comment because it is a smidgen outside of the 'norm'.

Your colleague asking if you conceived accidentally is really rude. It's none of her business. I would have just breezily said 'we wanted a 2 year age gap so this works for us' even if it's a lie. Nobody needs to know if you planned it or not. What does that even mean? How many people can exactly time their pregnancies?

The only appropriate comment is 'congratulations' and that's it.

Congrats on your pregnancy, people are really fecking stupid.
When I had my DC2 7 weeks early in pretty scary circumstances, after when we popped an announcement on FB some one commented "I did think you'd last til the end". Really irked me!!!

I'm one of those who to your face will smile and say congratulations but privately struggle due to years of fertility problems and pregnancy loss.

Each time someone in my office gets pregnant I get asked "are you ever going to have another?" fuck off and mind your own

It's not to detract from your good news but sometimes people like me either need to make a crass joke or walk away and ignore you