OH said he wanted a new sofa, so we discussed it but came to the conclusion we couldn't afford the one we want yet, and would get it in a few months.
Last week his mother came round and I was upstairs. I heard them talking about where the new sofa was going to go and how it would fit. When she left I asked him what she'd come for and he said to bring some clothes for our son.
A few days later he says that his mother has bought a new corner sofa and he's said that we'll have it until we get a new one. I asked what it looked like and he told me it was the same as his mothers other one. I told him that I didn't like it (cream leather), and didn't fancy a second hand sofa. We left the discussion at no conclusion.
On Sunday, his mother was picking him up to go to church with her, and then we had plans a few hours later. When his mother arrived at 9.30, his father and brother also turned up in a van with the new sofa. He left for church with his mother, leaving me to help them move it into the house and remove the old one. It was a lot of work, we had to remove two doors and still caused some damage to doorframes. I wouldn't have let them bring it in if i didn't feel sorry for his father.
So I texted OH and told him how upset I was that this had happened, and it was his fault for not discussing things properly with me about the sofa. He said he didn't know it was going to be delivered that day but had agreed we would have it. We rowed in the car on the way to our mothers day meal with my mother, his mother, and our families, then didn't talk all day.
He still thinks I'm overreacting and he should be allowed to make these decisions on his own "because he's a grown adult". I know it sounds trivial over a sofa, but I hate him and his mother conspiring over things that effect me and our kids. Then thinking he can just do them and I'll accept it.