To ask what you feel guilty about?

[totallybitching]

I've noticed that there are a lot of things I carry on my shoulders that I don't necessarily need to worry about but do anyway such as;

If there are dishes in the sink
If I sleep later than 9am on a weekend
If I spend too much time watching tv
If I don't do amazing things like my peers
That I don't own a house
That despite being university educated I don't have an amazing job
That my savings are meagre

I have no dependants and no real obligations but I still feel this what I think of as "woman's guilt" for not being super woman - married, babied up with an amazing career, several hobbies and a sparkling clean house.

I know iabu as you shouldn't compare, people are swans, grass greener etc but what do you feel guilty about? Let's relieve some guilt and get a list going of all the silly things that play on our minds!

I could have written your post op, in fact I started a thread not long ago about feeling mothers guilt.

I felt so guilty when dd was born because she was so small and weak, I stayed up all night feeding her to make up for it.

I feel guilty when I don't give her enough attention too, which is every day pretty much...

I feel guilty about work. I work with some very vulnerable children and even though I come in early and stay late every shift and bring work home with me every weekend, it never feels like it's enough and I feel guilty. All the fucking time.

Then I feel guilty for leaving DD to go to work. But when I'm with DD on my days off I think about the kids on my caseload at work and I worry about whether they're safe and I feel guilty for not being with there.

Then I feel guilty for thinking about work when I'm with DD and I should be completely focused on her and making the most of our time together.

Also I eat too many biscuits.

It's shit feeling guilty all the time but I don't know what the solution is. Feel a bit better having got it off my chest though. Thanks OP

I feel guilty for eating between meals and too much at meal times, and eating bad foods, and not exercising much at the moment, but other than that not a whole lot.

Oh so many things..

Working full time (though currently on maternity leave)
Keeping our nanny when I am on maternity leave (she is great, we didn't want to lose her when I go back)
Any moment that I am not physically looking after all three children on my own (cf above), including eg if I go to pick up older ones from nursery and nanny stays at home while baby sleeps
Not cooking for my husband enough
Not having any enough sex (new baby)
Not being able to actually accomplish anything other than looking after the children
Always feeling hungry and eating loads of crap (breastfeeding)
Weighing 10lbs more than I should
Not seeing my parents more
Being grumpy with my husband who is generally brilliant
Being grumpy with the kids (sleep deprivation etc)
Not paying more into my pension

Being overweight
Being a stresshead
Being tired
Not wanting to have more sex (comoletely in love with dh but just so blooming knackered)
Also have the bringing stuff up from past in my head which i fucking hate and have no idea how to stop
Bringing dc into a world that is very troubled
There are many more but that is off the top of my head

-That DH and I are pretty unhappy.
-That our house is a third of the size of every single member of his family's homes. I can't invite anyone over, I'm so ashamed.
-That despite having six degrees between us we can't afford to live anywhere nice.
-That DH is nearing 40 and I can't get fucking pregnant.
-That I can't stop overeating despite gaining three stone in as many months.