DH thinks I have missed out this Mothers Day he is being unreasonable

[Oldsu]

DS normally takes me out on Mothers Day, this year my DS become a Dad himself and of course he wanted to spend the day with my DIL on HER first Mothers Day, I understand this, he popped round this morning with a Mum card and a Granny card from baby grandson and some glass that I collect and then of course went back to his new family.

I told DH that if he was that bothered about me not being taken out he could take me out himself (which he did) but keeps banging on about DS not being with me on 'my special day'.

I have tried to explain that it's the way it should be now DS is a Dad himself but DH has been banging on about it all night.

Its actually spoiled my day

You sound very sensible OP. I really appreciated that DH focused on me on my first Mothering Sunday. Now DS is 2.4 we tend to split the day.

You sound ace. On my first Mother's Day, 3 years ago, I had to schlepp over a range of mountains, in the freezing cold, to MIL's house over an hour's drive away for a bloody family lunch. I was struggling terribly with breastfeeding DD who was literally days old and the day was pure torture.

This is the first Mother's Day I have escaped MIL and I had to seriously put my foot down to do it.

Wish you were my Mum!

Think your husband knows how special you are and wants to make sure you know that you are appreciated. Tell him not to piss on your chips next time, if you are happy he shouldn't moan!

You are very wise OP.

I have spent most of my mother's days cleaning and cooking for other people. Including my very first Mother's day when my twins were only a few months old.

What an excellent son you have raised.

You are very lovely and absolutely reasonable OP; be careful, or you'll give MILs a good name :o

It's a beautiful name, Oldsu!

I love the name as well;; it reminds me of this wonderful chap:

I was having just this conversation with a neighbour recently. We all live about an hour and a half away from our grown up children and they have their own families. As far as I'm concerned, their priority has to be their own family and I take a back seat. I had a card from my daughter and baby grandson and one from my son who also sent flowers. I'm just pleased that they still want to be in contact when they have busy lives and their own families, plus in laws.

We don' see all that much of them but will be there if needed.

I think you sound amazing!
My eldest in 14yo and I have never had a Mother's Day with just my family. DH is an only, my DSis lives away, both Mums are now widowed and seem to assume that they will spend the day with us and Christmas and Easter
TBH it doesn't seem fair to leave them on their own, but I wold love a special day with just my DH and DCs.

Oldsu would you consider adopting me please?!

I spent all of yesterday running around visiting MIL and Step-Mother with the DC as they expected visits but wouldn't put themselves out to come to us. You sound like a fabulous granny and DM/MIL

I think maybe your DH is feeling like your DS has all grown up and left but is maybe not expressing it very well, hence neon a grumpy old sod! But it sounds like his heart is in the right place. Enjoy your time with your lovely new grandson

You are a fab mum and grandma. I remember your proud post when Linus was born. I hope I can be an understanding and awesome mil like you one day

You sound like the best kind of Mum. And can I just say yur DS and DIL have great taste, Linus is an awesome name.

OP, you are lovely. Your DH doesn't like it that your DS is all grownup and now a separate family. You can still have lots of family gatherings throughout the year. I think you have passed on lovely values to your son too by the sound of it.

You are wonderful
Your dh is silly
Your son is fab
Your gs has the best name

He's probably realised that your son won't spend Father's Day with him and is more upset about that but doesn't want to admit it.

I remember when you became a gran. Glad things are going well and I'm sure your dil loves you to bits.

DH and DS went to see MIL yesterday afternoon at my request . I even gave him the flowers he bought me to re-gift to MIL as DH hadn't bought her any.

I don't really care about Mother's Day, especially whilst DS is too young to know what's going on anyway. But it's nice to have an excuse to request an afternoon of peace and send them out to make a fuss of granny!

Thank you for all your kind comments DH is in a better mood today I am glad to say

Well done you - my dsis is in your exact position...and did the exact opposite! If I were her DIL, I'd be steaming.

This was my DD's first year as a mum herself.

I have been a mum for 20 years.

We all went to my DMs on Saturday. DD did the mothers day thing, I did it for my mum! Then on Sunday, we all retreated to our own homes. As it should be!

YANBU!

He still came round with a nice card and gift even with shell shock of having a newborn. Stuff Mother's Day esp if your getting squishing cuddles from dgs

Speaking as a DS, DH, and Dad

thank you for understanding

My theory - is that new family trumps old family.

I love my mum - but - mothers day is about my closest family - which is now DW, and DD

You are getting it bang on right. My dad cooks my dm dinner on Mother's Day. We send cards and have a phone call. It's your dh's time to make a fuss of the mother of his children. Cycle of life innit?