to wonder if people recognise themselves?

[Grapejuicerocks]

Negative personality traits, other things like Wendying, bridezillaness, dysfunctional family relationships etc are often discussed on here.

I wonder if anybody has ever had a lightbulb moment and recognised that they themselves are guilty of these and actually changed their own behaviour, made amends and/or apologised to people?

It's easy to recognise these things in others but harder to admit that you yourself may have fallen into bad habits either deliberately or through learning/witnessing these within their own childhoods.

Anyone going to own up and tell us how things have worked out for them?

Today I discovered the word wendying and realise I've done that a lot (not in a nasty way)
I guess I'll have to learn to make friends of my own

Texting. Have to remind myself to reply to texts promptly so that people don't take offence, it never occurred to me that a 2 or 3 day gap is not OK till I read about on here.

I no longer wash my toilet seat in the dishwasher

I used to be a repeat snooze offender (pre-kids) - feel ashamed DH had to put up with that and bitter because of all the sleep I could have had instead.

I've also learnt that what you see in public is such a small part of someone's life; you don't know if there's disabilities or learning difficulties or mental health issues causing whatever you're judging.

I'd like to think I'm a little kinder these days.

I've always known that I have a competitive streak. I'm aware of it and try very hard never to let it influence my words or my behaviour. It's not about other people it's about me getting the things I wanted and dreamed of in life. So far I've always gotten what I wanted so I try hard not to compare with others. But yes, I'm aware of that not nice trait of mine.

I knew long before MN was invented that i wouldn't want to live with me. I can be a cow sometimes. A manipulative needy one.

I have enough good points to outweigh the bad ones most of the time though. And i do try to be less manipulative and cow like when i can. So i don't beat myself up about it too much

I had elements of being a bridezilla, in that I just talked constantly about my wedding to anyone who would listen, and at the moment of being a proud Mum bore

I am aware of them and have and do apologise for them but sometimes I just can't seem to stop it

Nope, I'm perfect.

bertie Don't let it make you feel guilty. If you are more aware of it now you should be celebrating any minor improvements not beating yourself up about the long way to go. - although I feel i should was my sheets more after threads on here.

Haven't bought a bin for downstairs yet. Maybe I should

I try not to judge as much any more either as pp's above have posted. That's a definite improvement.