Last year it was an old friend's 40 th. She has always been quite self obsessed and a bit difficult as a friend but we go back a lon way, bridesmaids godparents etc. So we took the children out of school for a day ( unheard of for us) and trekked up to Edinburgh where her husband is chaplain at a public school. I was surprised that she didn't offer us to come round for a cup of tea, see her house etc but hey ho. So we just went to the party in the evening which was quite dull - and she did not come over to speak to us at all. - until we were leaving when she tried to get us to stay for some reason. So recently it was my 40 th and I had a party. She said it was too difficult to come down off it ( although we made a huge effort to get to hers). I am pissed off - should I take all this as a snub?