to think I was right about rules of the road?

[waitingforsomething]

Today I needed to turn right into a B road from a large A road. I pulled into the designated slip road thing with the arrow pointing right then waited as there was traffic coming down the A road.
Meanwhile there was a man driving a large HGV who wanted to turn right out of the B road onto the A road. His vehicle was very big so this meant that he had to wait for me to drive into the B road before he could go because his HGV wouldn't have swung round.
Apparently this made his so furious that he got out of his car, stood at my window, shouted 'stupid fuckinng women drivers' and 'silly cunt' at me and then spat on my window.

I was really upset obviously but did I do something wrong with regards to the rules of the road? I'm not a new driver so I think o was right but perhaps I'm missing something?

You did the right thing. I've let people out in situations like that but there's always a chance someone will come up on your road too fast and an accident will happen. Safer to stick to the rules. And to ignore idiots looking for a barney.

What a knob.

My DH let someone out like that recently instead of taking his place and right of way properly like you did and she made a dreadful judgment call and swung out barely missing the oncoming traffic. I was so surprised as he's normally so road smart and I had a real go at him for being stupid.

Mini perhaps I'm misunderstNding but why is it your husbands fault that this woman pulled out into oncoming traffic? Even if he flashed her to go it's her responsibility to check it's clear surely?

I don't understand- you were sitting in the filter lane of the A road waiting for the A road traffic in the opposite direction to clear so that you could turn into the B road. No lights presumably. In the time you were sitting waiting to turn, he got out of his cab, crossed the A road and confronted you while you were still sitting in the filter lane?

If he was able to cross the road as a pedestrian, why were you not able to use the same gap to turn into the B road and be gone before he got to you?

Jessie makes a good point!

Happyrouter, he flashed her out to go even though he had right of way to turn right. She then pulled out and almost swiped a car on our left that she hadn't been able to see because we were sitting in the way. If my DH had used his right of way as he should have done, she'd have had a clear sight when it was her turn to go. Which is why you should never flash anyone to move when it's your right of way. You have no control over the rest of the traffic who are following the Highway Code and my DH oddly didn't (and is usually a very careful driver).

Well he half blocked the A-road trying to get round me, realised he couldn't get round as I was in the filter lane (where I should have been) so he was close to me then. That's when he jumped out his lorry and had a go. I could have driven away probably but I was being screamed at so froze a bit. This whole incident obviously caused a traffic jam of people staring!

Gosh I'm doubting myself now trying to explain this. I probably did something wrong.

Ah, that makes sense. He was a total arse who broke the rules of the road and you did nothing wrong.

Nope, you did nothing wrong.
It absolutely enrages me when men behave like this to women drivers. It's horrible being called a cunt by a man...
and spitting !?
I drove my mum's car recently, which is a model often driven by women, and I was shocked at the aggression I felt on the roads. I normally drive quite a "masculine " car, and generally don't run into bother.
It's pure mysoginy.

Nope, you did nothing wrong, you were just unfortunate enough to meet an arsehole.

At least he didn't pull out in front of you like the arsehole in the van did to me last week. He should have waited until I'd gone past but no, he had to go there and then. I practically had to stand on the brakes to avoid crashing into the back of him.

Ironically it was a car parts company. He nearly needed a few himself.

While he was half blocking the A road, does that mean he'd found sufficient gap in the traffic to pull out of the side road with a large HGV and presumably block the A road? Why didn't you take that opportunity to complete your own manoeuvre in to the side road?

I'm not excusing his tirade, but you may have contributed to his annoyance if you unreasonably failed to move.

Yeah I could have done. Not saying I was blameless that's kind of why I posted, but the whole thing was quite stressful and a bit unusual so I didn't necessarily react as quickly as I could have done in a way that might have prevented me receiving an earful of abuse for being female.

there wasn't sufficient gap. He just went because he was cross I guess and the Oncoming A road traffic had to stop.

OK. You didn't go when he thought you should have, so he tried to intimidate you by pulling out and blocking the road. You didn't think that you had had an opportunity to pull out at this stage. I suppose we'll never know whether you did or didn't, but if you don't feel comfortable pulling out then you were right not to.

At this point the road will have been blocked by his lorry, so you could definitely have completed your manoeuvre. You stayed put. This got him even more annoyed and he got out of his cab. You still didn't move.

While you correctly accept you were not blameless, you have nothing to be ashamed about. He, on the other hand, would not have wanted his children to witness his behaviour.

Was it Ronnie Pickering by any chance?

I never thought there was sufficient gap or I would have gone. the A road in question is the main road into a major city and it was the back end of rush hour so it was busy and I guess I was driving in a way that is potentially cautious but in my opinion safe and normal. It's not like I sat there for 5 minutes twiddling my thumbs!

I guess the point at which I should have moved is when he was blocking the road - he was wildly giving me the finger and mouthing swear word at me at this point so I guess shock rooted me! It really all felt like a few seconds before he jumped out - but I guess it could have been longer. Hard to tell when you're in a situation and panicking a bit!

To be honest, if someone thinks shouting abuse at me is the best way to get me to do something, I usually do what I can to disabuse them of that notion.