Is it time to sleep train?

[lilypadpod]

DS has just turned 6months. He breastfeeds at 10pm, 1am, 3am, 4am (and is awake shouting and crying for an hour after the 4am feed!) and is up for the day at 6am!

I am shattered.

He is already on solids and breastfeeds every 3-4hours during day.

Would you sleep train?

He won't self soothe and has to be rocked and cuddled to sleep with dummy or he feeds to sleep.

[ThatsNotEvenAWord]

I kept DS in our room til around 7 months as I thought I needed to wait til he slept through before moving him. It turned out that we were waking each other up and he would want a feed to go back to sleep. Once we tried him in his own room he quickly dropped most of his night feeds and slept through after a couple of months.

[LetMeBakeCake]

Comeonsummer1 - thank you :)
I agree with Lenibose re feeding - I think I was feeding DS every 3 hours to make sure he got enough food (lots of other good advise in your post too!)
I also agree with the own room! I had a video monitor and it's so good for peace of mind - and he was moved with no issues. One of my friends waited until her son was a year and had loads of problems because he was aware by then of being 'left alone' and didn't like it one bit!

[lilypadpod]

Thanks, I like the sound of gradual withdrawal and have been reading Nectarina's old thread (thanks for the link).

I need to do something soon as I'm on my knees. I feel sick, I can't eat, I'm tearful all the time and keep snapping at everyone.

We don't have the space to move him to his own room unless we convert guestroom into his room. But I'll think about it as I'm really desperate now! We're moving in 6months. I thought he'd be happier/calmer in with us but maybe not!

[lilypadpod]

I'll try breastfeeding more often in day too. He has 3meals (solids) and hasn't dropped any breastfeeds since starting solids so I think it's more he needs to feed to sleep.

Tried co-sleeping but he won't sleep in our bed he just shouts and rolls around and pulls my hair!

[lenibose]

As i said above, we didn't move my son till he was 3 years. Yes he slept better (esp in the early hours when my husband snores!) once he was in his own bed but we 'sleep trained' and taught him all the basics of independent sleeping in our room. When he was 3 we moved him into our room with absolutely minimum fuss. He spent time choosing his decoration, setting up his bed and off he went. So don't despair if you can't move him into his own room.

[poocatcherchampion]

Just fling a cot in the guest room. You will be grateful for a bed in there from time to time....