AIBU - I've been called fat 3 times this weekend...

[ThePinkParker]

And my baby is only 5 months old. Seriously, why would you mention it? Yes I am overweight at the moment but I've lost 11lbs so far & im trying to feel better about myself which isn't easy due to constant sleep depravation.

First off, went to PIL's Friday to show them photos of the baby & us we had done last week. PILs are awwing & cooing over the baby then there is one of the three of us & FIL says "I don't like that one, you look fat in it". Yeah thanks!!

Then we go to BILs yesterday and one of DH's family members asks am I pregnant again already. !!!!!! Really??

Out with breakfast this morning with my dad & he's telling me I need to feed the baby solids as he's losing his belly (he's not - he's 98th centile ffs!) then starts to tell me how I was fed baby rice at 2 weeks & it didn't do me any harm etc, so I JOKILY say - in order to change the bloody convo as I'm sick of it - "ooh that's why I'm overweight then" to which he replies "no your fat because you eat too much". Yes, I walked right into that one but seriously it was a joke so it's nice to know that me having JUST HAD A BABY has no bloody bearing on it. It isn't the first time he's mentioned my fatness after having the baby. I used to be a size 10 so it was clearly a joke...

AIBU to be hurt or am I being over sensitive? Argh I'm furious & feel even shitter about myself now even though I'm bloody trying to lose weight!

I'm sorry you have experienced that this weekend, people can be so inconsiderate. Your body is incredible, it has made a human being!! I hope you are able to forget their unhelpful comments and be kind to yourself. If you decide you want to get back to how you were pre pregnancy it is possible but slowly slowly is the most sensible approach. I has twins and received a lot of hurtful comments about my weight, I am sensitive and it affected me badly. I starved myself down to a bmi of 17 and was utterly miserable. I'm getting help now but I really wish I had never given it a second thought.

Shower 'O Cunts, the lot of them!

Fuck, it's just taken you nine months to make a whole new human, do they really think it takes weeks to get back to how you were pre pregnancy?

I feel your pain though. A few weeks after having my twin boys early at 28 weeks, i bumped into a neighbour who asked me how long i had left to go...

People are rude. Ignore!

Took me 6 years to loose my baby weight (third child). I had all the fat comments. Lost 7 stone, was and am now a healthy size but guess what? People started saying I looked to thin/guant/unhealthy. Gained half a stone out of paranoia and yep you guessed it..fat comments again.

You won't win. Do what makes YOU happy. There will always be someone with something negative to say.

"I may be fat but you're rude and I know which one I would rather be"

Nine months on, nine months off.

Why not start your own thread then instead of reanimating an eight month old one?

Reported.

Oh and not everyone on here is a mother... HTH

My one year old loves snuggling into my mummy tummy, so for time being its staying!

ZOMBIE THREAD

Apologies, liviadruslagusta
I don't really know my way around, I don't mean to cause any bother :)
Sending my love

They lie about breastfeeding I'm sure of it.

I GAIN weight until they've finished (around a year) and then it all drops off (baby and extra weight after) when they completely wean.

Fuckers.

You don't have a weight problem op. You have a cunty family problem, I bet they aren't all svelte magic mikes themselves are they?

You are not being insensitive, they are being bloody rude. It's your body, and none of their business. I hate how women's bodies are considered to be in public domain, everyone can give their opinion and make s judgement.
Your family need to be deprived of your beautiful baby for a while....
When I came home with my first, my ( usually lovely) neighbour ( who we used to refer to as Posh and Mad) took one look at my still huge belly, and kept shrieking "but how can your tummy still look like that when you've had your baby? '.

My FiL is like this: he comments on the calorific value of everything everyone eats, and especially me. "Ooh, that's bad for your cholesterol" (avocados). But if I lose any weight he says how much better I look with some weight on me. MiL doesn't like any food that has spices, garlic or is modern - she only eats beige, tasteless food, so peers at everything I cook and says "Ew, I don't know how you can eat that!"

Shannon People don't read the whole thread and when you reanimate it, they just carry on posting... as you can see...

I put on 4.5 stone when pg, going from 9.5 stone and size 8 to 14 stone and a size 16+.

When my baby was around 6 mo, my mum would come around with 'diet' food and say things like "I fancy one of these cardboard diet biscuits don't you?" and "Oh I wouldn't have another if I were you". She was very overweight herself (a size 18-20 then) too.

I think it's because it's a shock for people to watch you go from a small size to a big one in such a relatively short space of time. I didn't feel that fat until I had the baby, because I thought it was "all bump" and I was in denial for a long time. I remember going into a few shops and complaining that their size 14s were made too small, there must be a production problem I could not accept I was a size 16-18.

I did lose the baby weight (only after 2nd baby) and it is only now I can look back and think that I was definitely fat. At the time it wasn't important because I was taking care of the baby and I didn't want to know or hear anything about my weight and rightly so, it's not anyone's business. But people will comment.

The only person who was happy when I was fat was my MIL. She doesn't seem pleased now I'm back to my size 8s.

In short, YANBU at all. It's horrible when people comment on your weight like that. But just to say, as a thought for the future, baby weight can be lost, as and when you are ready. I had a few false starts and thought I would never be slim ever again but I did do it (and keep it off).

Congratulations on your baby

There seems to be this ridiculous obsession nowadays with people expecting Mums to have no baby weight, even though their baby is very young. My eldest is 15 and I've been racking my memory to establish if this is a new thing or has it always existed.Thankfully, I can't remember a single derogatory comment, which I'm grateful for, because when you've just had a baby you're exhausted, your bodies flooded with hormones.It takes time for your body to heal and your babies your priority.Why do people not know this ?

Oh yawn, who digs up zombie threads?!?! Why?! Just start a new thread