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To be scared of turning 25?

38 replies

Abbinob · 28/02/2016 14:18

It's my birthday next month, and im shitting it.
i don't want to be in the magical super grown up over 25 category. I feel like i should have achieved something by now. but nope.
Is this how birthdays are now? scary forever?
i have no idea where the time's even gone, it seems like literally yesterday i was 21 and pregnant and planning on finishing uni, getting a job etc. none of that's happened, i've only just gone back to uni let alone finished and got a half decent job, im unemployable and skint and boring.
where does time go!? my "baby" will be going to school next year and he is gigantic.
wish life would slow down and wait for me

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ZiggyFartdust · 28/02/2016 14:19

25? You're practically a child.

IndomitabIe · 28/02/2016 14:22

Grin I'm about to turn 35. This I have learned: no one is a real grown up, they're all pretending. No one knows what they're doing, they're all hoping no one else notices. Time passes, children get older. And actually when they go to school (DS is in reception), it's brilliant!

You've achieved loads in your years. I was one of the younger members of my course when I retrained at 27.

And weirdly, 26 and 27 felt younger to me than 25. 25 feels significant (as does 35), but it's not!

There's plenty of life in you yet! Stop worrying!

StiickEmUp · 28/02/2016 14:22

How patronising ! ^^
Try 33. No kids ! Yikes

StiickEmUp · 28/02/2016 14:22

^^ to sight

StiickEmUp · 28/02/2016 14:22

Or ziggy

EmpressOfTheVulvaCupcakes · 28/02/2016 14:23

Oh love...

Don't worry. You don't magically grow up at 25 and you're not on a deadline to achieve stuff. Good on you for going back to uni.

BisherBasherBosher · 28/02/2016 14:29

Yes, at 25 you're practically dead Hmm

CooPie10 · 28/02/2016 14:31

im unemployable and skint and boring.

Well why don't you work on changing that. You're only 25, you have plenty of time to achieve whatever you want. No need to write yourself off at this age.

JennyOnAPlate · 28/02/2016 14:36

I remember having a wobble about turning 25. This little voice in my head telling me that I should have everything sorted by now.

I'm almost 36 now and still feel like I don't know what I'm doing most of the time. We're all just winging it op, anyone who says otherwise is lying Grin

pieceofpurplesky · 28/02/2016 14:38

You're 25. I will be 47 this year and don't feel like that! You need to get out of the rut you are in - not easy I know but you have your whole life ahead of you. Retrain, get fit and fabulous.

Tabsicle · 28/02/2016 14:43

When I was 25 I'd never had a job, had just gone through a messy break up and moved back in with my dad, was skint and convinced I was never going to make it.

I'm now 38. Lovely house, mortgage free, and a gorgeous fiance and a job I love that I'm good at. Seriously, so much can change in your late twenties. Make a plan and go for it. Be whoever you want to be.

HarrietSchulenberg · 28/02/2016 14:45

Age is just a number. I'm 45. I'm still wondering what I'm going to do when I grow up.

WhereYouLeftIt · 28/02/2016 14:50

"i don't want to be in the magical super grown up over 25 category."
I didn't feel like a grown-up until I was 30. You're doing fine.

Costacoffeeplease · 28/02/2016 14:51

I'm 50 and starting several new projects/hobbies which may or may not turn into part time jobs. This is not a rehearsal, your life really is what you make it, and you can keep re-making it over and over

BillBrysonsBeard · 28/02/2016 14:51

Don't compare yourself to anyone else! It is the thief of joy. People will look at you with a child and think "I wish I'd had mine earlier" or "Look at her all grown up with a child, wish I was that sorted". You are a mum, that's a huge achievement in itself! You have plenty of time for the rest.

seaweed123 · 28/02/2016 14:56

25 hit me far harder than 30, for some reason. 35 is loaming, and even that doesn't feel as bad as 25 did at the time.

So I understand where you are coming from, and I think it will only get better every year, not worse.

Topseyt · 28/02/2016 14:59

I'll be 50 this summer. Still winging it really.

Don't worry. Things will work out. Wink

morningtoncrescent62 · 28/02/2016 15:14

You've brought a new person into the world and seen them through their first three (?) years - how on earth can that possibly be considered not achieving anything?

Don't worry, OP, you have loads of years to achieve more stuff. And yes, if my experience (in my 50s) is anything to go by, there'll be several birthdays where you take a gulp and wonder how on earth you got to be that age and where the time went, and think you should have done more by now (whenever now is) but most of the time you'll just get on with doing what needs to be done.

ComeonSummer1 · 28/02/2016 15:15

You have a job a child and are at uni? And you are only 25? Wow op you have achieved loads.

You should be right proud of yourself. Flowers

I am 52 and my best achievements to date are 4 happy grown up kids. No career as such. No degree.

Am happy with that. Grin

LifeofI · 28/02/2016 16:00

im 27 in 2 months and i feel old as fuk, i know how u feel

Helmetbymidnight · 28/02/2016 16:02

Youth is wasted on the young, eh!

DrFoxtrot · 28/02/2016 16:05

When I turned 35 I said to XH that I was halfway to 40. He said no you're not, you're halfway to 70 Grin bastard.

RortyCrankle · 28/02/2016 16:26

OMG you poor soul. You're going to be soooooooo OLD. I'm only 70 so can relax, there's a long way to go until I have to be grown up Grin

MishMooshAndMogwai · 28/02/2016 16:33

I'm 25 in May and feel the same!

25 seems so much older than 24, I don't know why! Hopefully 25 will be the year I finally graduate and get a job!

Good luck and happy nearly birthday, you've got so much out the way early you sound like you've got your shit together Grin

ollieplimsoles · 28/02/2016 16:35

I remember feeling similar when I hit 25 op, all my friends had their own places and and i was still living with my parents.

But so much can happen in such a little time in your 20's! I'm 27 next month, and I went from building up my own business at my mums, to a married mum of one with a thriving career in less than two years!

When you are young and have nothing tying you down, you can spot great opportunities and just go for them without a second thought, now I have a family and house to think about I cant do that very often, don't waste it!