To ask you to describe your relationship with your in-laws in three words

[QueenE27]

This was asked of me today and i'm curious to hear other peoples answers!

fond, loving, close

FIL died the other week. Funeral, this Monday. I wasn't close to FIL, but it made me realise how much love I have for MIL. I missed her loads when she had to stay with him constantly, while he was ill, even though we only met up once every week or so. DH lso grew to realise how fond he is of his mum, through that time, even though he'd not really thought about it, before.

Loving, happy, respectful

Lovely but undermining,

They loathe me (we are expats and when they visit I am not invited to join any meals, days out etc., so I can have a 'break'. We have live in childcare. They are interested in their GC for about 5 mins before they are also rejected and MIL just literally fawns all over DH. It's sickening to watch. Then the guilt tripping begins. Apparently I'm to blame for our move as I didn't persuade him not to go. ) I'd also rather not be here but his career comes first. They weren't happy when I worked full time, now I'm 'lazy'. TBH since DC came along our relationship has totally changed, it was fine before. They cannot stand the fact that they can't control their son's life. I find it all very odd.

My second family

None. They're dead.

Easy, supportive, enjoyable

Lack of interest

Adore their DGC

What an AMAZING thread!!!!

How do you nominate for classics?

Mine is like Liz70's:

"None - they're dead"

Jasharps - incest or just similar?

Lovely, needy, sad (fil walked out on mil 3 years ago)

Thoughtful, loving, (a little) needy

Uninterested in grandchildren

Utterly fucking shit

Cold, awkward, uninterested

Like my own

Dwindled to nothing

I always thought of them as just important as my own family, until BIL (their son)left SIL last year and I saw how they closed ranks around him and excused his horrible behaviour. Apparently he was perfectly justified in leaving because 'she was depressed' (SIL nursed her mother while she died of cancer) and 'she never cooked dinner' (they both work full time).

Absolutely fucking brilliant !

Intelligent....faithful...tenacious.

Ended Decades Ago

I love them.

Kind, warm, respectful

passed away peacefully

Meh, we're good.

Difficult, inflexible, deferential