I'm the first to admit I can sometimes take things too personally, and I know that's my issue, I'm not perfect. But I try and keep things in perspective.
But I've had some counselling recently for low self esteem and confidence, and I now know that some people are just rude, and I don't have to put up with it. I can't change their behaviour, only my reaction. I try to always be polite and thoughtful, while getting my point across.
I have been volunteering in school and was chair of the Pta last year, to help school out. I did it because I'm a mug I wanted to put on fun events for the children, and raise money for school. I didn't particularly enjoy it, I found it stressful, but seeing the kids enjoying themselves made it worthwhile.
The head teacher was very ungrateful, made it very difficult for us, and never even thanked us for raising £2,500. Came to the agm, was very negative and didn't once thank us. I didn't want a big song and dance, just her supporting us and saying thank you would have done!! I wasn't alone in feeling like this, even the new members commented on her behaviour.
I have since realized she is a horrible vindictive bully (since others shared their experiences, I know I'm not imagining it)
Yet because I have stepped back from the Pta, and am now looking into volunteering for a local charity instead, I'm over sensitive!
The current chair thinks the head can do no wrong, so I have taken a step back subtly, and let her get on with it. She sent a text asking for volunteers for next week, I politely replied saying I was unavailable, and got a snippy reply. Again I'm being over sensitive.
Why is it if people are rude people stick up for them and say it's just their way, yet if you pull someone up, you're in the wrong not them?
I need to start standing up for myself, I think I may be in an emotionally abuse marriage, so my judgement is a bit skewed!