A year ago, we - including the children - were invited to my cousin's wedding in Italy. We declined, as it's term time and we couldn't feasibly get the children there and back without their missing school.
A month ago, we - not including the children - were invited to DH's second cousin's wedding, the same weekend, within the UK but a flight away. As all my family are going to be in Italy, there's no one to look after the children, so DH suggested that he went alone, Friday to Monday.
However he's just told me that he doesn't particularly want to go - he just feels he ought to. Whereupon it occurred to me that, actually, I could go alone to my cousin's wedding instead, and he could look after the children.
Flights etc. cost the same to each. He has pointed out that he never sees his family, and that's true, but that's because he can't be bothered (and they never come and see us) whereas I regularly go and see my family (both families live a fair distance away, though DH's are slightly further) and take the children with me etc.
We both work, I do the bulk of the childcare etc. - and actually don't enjoy leaving the children (I've only done it a couple of times, for work) - but would quite like a tiny break in Italy in the sun. Or at least, I feel that I am slightly more justified in going to a wedding that I actually want to go to, as opposed to his going to a wedding that he feels he ought to go to. But then it's an opportunity for DH to see his family - and I do see mine a lot.
So, what should we do?