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To be in a difficult position re son best friend & drugs?

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oprahfan · 22/02/2016 16:45

Oh hell.......DS1 has told me over a period of some weeks now about his best mate,who is a few weeks younger than DS1, who's 15.
He told me his friend had started smoking weed,now he has progressed onto 'E's' and there's footage on social media of his friend on 'trips'. Friend has tried to persuade DS1 to try weed,then E's,which DS1 is having none of. He has told me that he feels his friend is now getting in 'too deep' and he's worried about some of the idiots his mate has started to hang around with.
He has started to have violent & abusive outbursts,and DS1 has been a witness to some of these. I am so glad that DS1 has spoken to me about these things,can't have been easy for him to tell me,or witness these things.
The thing is,just one single E can kill. If it were my son,I would want to know.I want my son alive. I cannot have a death on my mind,through drugs. I have to prevent a tragedy. My sons friend is from a good family,well off, far more than us. I went to the school this afternoon,as I know the person supplying is from the same year in the school. I am bricking it. I cannot tell the boys parents,as I don't want to be shot as the messenger.Was I BU in what I did this afternoon?

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oprahfan · 22/02/2016 20:16

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties

There's a legal high shop very close to where I work......interesting to say the least!!!!!
I do need to 'update' myself on some of the new 'products' on the market,I know that for sure.
I have decided to leave it as it is,in the hands of the school.
All I can do as DS's mum,is look after them, but I'm on the lookout for DS's best mate too.

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 22/02/2016 20:47

I think you've done the right thing and I just hope the school have taken it seriously and will monitor it. For some, taking drugs can be a rebellious act which can then get out of hand so I hope your son's friend gets the support he needs. Sadly, they have to want to change so things may get worse for him before they get better.
Your son sounds very level headed and sensible. If you can keep communicating with him as you are it will help him enormously.

oprahfan · 22/02/2016 21:42

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties

Tbh,it's eating me up inside. This lad also has a chronic illness,and no matter what he chooses to take,the risks are even higher for him.
I realise only too well it is for the lad to want to get help.
I feel sick. So sick. I want to help him. Being a young adult is so bloody difficult.
I also understand the rebellious act. I think he may have esteem issues,since his elder brother is so 'successful'.
Cheers for replying,and to everyone else.
I'm proud of my son,he is level headed. My DS2 is a different kettle of fish altogether....he'll be a different story.
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