I work Tue to Thurs in a stressful job. I have 3 DC, the youngest (7) has SN and is extremely demanding and needs constant supervision. Monday is the only day I get to myself.
I've had a busy few weeks so was really looking forward to having some time to myself today.
Sister texted a few days ago - "do you fancy ikea on Monday?"
Me - "no thanks, I'm skint plus I'm looking forward to having a day to myself"
yesterday
Sis - "hi, I need to visit [my town] tomorrow are you free?"
Me - "Yeah. I was planning a day to myself but obviously if you're coming to [my town] you're welcome here"
Now she's just texted to say "let's go have a wander around"
I think I might BU. she has a toddler and a small baby and her DP works full time - I get that it can be lonely/boring.
OTOH I clearly said I wanted a day to myself but now find myself cleaning up after an awful morning and instead of curling up with a film and some peace, I am cleaning the bloody kitchen ready for dis, baby and her toddler who is terrified of my (placid but bouncy) 7 month old Labrador.
I know if I felt that strongly about a day alone I shouldn't have said you're welcome here. But I feel like a bitch for saying basically "I don't want to see you and your children today cos I want to do fuck all".