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AIBU?

Aib an absolute nutter???

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Deejames1 · 21/02/2016 23:16

I'll be the first to admit that I'm a bit pfb with my DD. Took yonks to conceive and she is the product of my 5th cycle of IVF. She is the first grandchild to my parents and she is absolutely cherished. Her first birthday is in April. When she was born I paid for a photographer to take some pics of me and her. They were absolutely amazing and I was delighted. I'm not one for pics of myself either. My wedding photos were a disaster - had none (if you can believe it) of my darling parents and in laws.

The photographer offers a 50% discount for shoots taken within the same year. I am tempted to ask her to come to her first birthday party. It's being held at our house and will be just a family affair- my parents, grandparents, brother and fiancé and my DH's parents and his brother and children. I know my parents won't think it odd but I am concerned I'll come across nuts to my in laws. I get on v v well with them but they would t be the type to say I was nuts even if they thought it. Does it come across self indulgent?! I just think that an hour of her time will result in the most beautiful keepsakes. Have I lost the plot completely and this is in fact weird? I used to be a rational human being but now I'm not too sure...AIBU?

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Rachel0Greep · 22/02/2016 00:22

Great idea. As said upthread, do let everyone know so they can be dressed up.

YANBU.

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IPityThePontipines · 22/02/2016 00:49

No, you're not being a nutter, it sounds like a lovely idea and I'd agree with letting people know for dress purposes.

However, I'm now dying to know which band fatmomma is referring to.

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IdentityRequest1 · 22/02/2016 00:53

There's an offer on, you don't have to worry about taking pics, all your loved ones can be in the pic (rather than one behind the camera). Why not?

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Qwebec · 22/02/2016 00:54

If you are worried about their reaction, just say you want nice pictures of the whole family together.

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Spring2016 · 22/02/2016 06:46

Great photo opportunity with all of your family there together. I'd try and arrange a family group shot, and a couple of your dd and one with your and your dp. Sounds like a great idea to me. Enjoy!

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 22/02/2016 06:58

Yanbu provided that the day doesn't become all about the photos. It wouldn't matter to your dd if she missed her birthday but it might be annoying for your family. If you have a couple of posed shots and then the photographer takes photos of you doing whatever you'd do without her being there, that's fine.

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icelollycraving · 22/02/2016 07:00

Sounds like your entitled to be as pfb as you want! (Actually who isn't?)
I agree with everyone,do it & enjoy the day.
At ds' nativity,everyone was recording it on phones as no photos were allowed but videoing was ok. I decided to just watch & enjoy. If they'd had someone taking photos I think they would have sold. They missed a trick which is most unlike them. Normally they swoop in on a bit of a moneymaker for school funds.

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deregistered · 22/02/2016 07:05

Actually I don't think you're BU (even though I'd never do it!).

Firstly, it will hopefully stop yourself and others walking around with an iPhone glued to your faces as you film/photo every second yourselves. Secondly, it's a great excuse to get nice pics of the whole family as well as your daughter. Especially as you don't have any from your wedding.

If you are embarrassed re your in laws, just make a little joke of it saying 'I know it's nutty - don't judge me!'. My MIL would rip the piss as she's a no nonsense Glaswegian and I'd never hear the last of it!

Congrats on your PFB anyway

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RubyChewsDay · 22/02/2016 07:13

Do it every year

You cant turn the clock back.

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Katenka · 22/02/2016 07:18

If you want to do it, do it.

My dbro and sill do this every year. The only issue I have is she expects everyone to display the photos in their house. If I did I would have more photos of her and her kids than I would have of my own. Which sauce problems as she is very vocal about it. I just have the latest one up.

But the whole photograph things is none of my business.

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Keeptrudging · 22/02/2016 07:29

It's a lovely idea and you'll treasure those photos (as will others in your family).

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wigglesrock · 22/02/2016 07:44

Its a lovely idea, I wouldn't worry too much about what other people think. I'd let those coming to the party know, the only thing I'd be careful of is if you or the photographer starts making requests about what colours/ clothes other people wear - its at that point where a nice idea steps over into pain in the arse territory.

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Goandplay · 22/02/2016 07:57

Do it! A few people I know do it and I think it's a great idea if you can afford it. Time goes too quickly and you'll have great pictures to look back on.

Also, as for enjoying the moment - having a professional will mean that you can because you won't have a camera in front of your face all day.

Happy birthday to your DC.

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DeloresDeSyn · 22/02/2016 11:47

Do it! We have, so based on my experience, I would suggest that you make sure everyone knows, so that they get a chance to look 'camera ready', and also that your photographer is good at documentary style photographs, rather than studio shots. This means there will be minimal interruption to your day, your pics will be a lovely natural record of the day, and you can choose to have some posed ones if you wish.