This might be long but I don't wanna drip feed.
My mum and dad were together 8 years before I was conceived, shortly after she found out he had been having an affair, they split up and he got with the OW and brought up her son, he denied all facts of me being his child and has never been there through out my life, lucky I had a wonderful stepdad.
My dad or whoever he is, has 3 grown up sons from a previous marriage who were very much involved with me due to my mum being good friends with his previous wife who is a lovely woman, his children have always believed I was there sister and have always been there for me.
There's been a few times I've been in contact with this man and briefly lived with him and my brother when I was a teenager, I've never called him dad and he's never acknowledged me, we've engaged in small talk and that's it, when I was young and he seen me and my mum he would talk to her and totally ignore me. my mum has always been adamant that he is my dad but there's always been doubt in my mind.
He hasn't been a very good dad too his sons either, Two of his sons don't speak to him, one of them who I'm really close too won't let him see his grandchildren because of the way he's treated me and says I'm better off not knowing him.
Ive been thinking about a DNA test for a long time but have never had the courage to ask him, recently I've been going to therapy and I think I'm ready to know the truth now.
I was just wondering if 24 years is too late and is it a good idea to drag up the past?