to not like DH wearing headphones looking after DD?

[BurtMacklinsWife]

AIBU to not like DH wearing headphones - even one ear - when looking after DD (7)? He is usually listening to podcasts. I feel like it makes him more distracted and disconnected and it's just a bit rude. Happy to hear the truth about whether IABU.

Dunno really, at seven dont they just entertain themselves for a good chunk of the day hopeful ?

Does he actually do stuff with her, ever?

Agree, drives me mad when I see parents doing this. Totally broadcasts the message "my child is not worth interacting with", "I'd rather be doing something else" and "can you please let me know if she cries, because I won't be able to hear her. Ta".

Yes, but it's the not listening properly when she's trying to talk to him and he's not here very much due to work - 2 days a week he sees her.

What is she doing while he has his earphones in? Playing on her own?

I think this is really about him not engaging with her?

Yadnbu - that would make me really angry! If he only sees her two days a week then the least he could do is be present when he is with her and listen to podcasts when she's asleep! Is this the only thing that annoys you about him or are there other issues with his parenting/your marriage?

I think if she is playing or watching TV etc then it's not really that much of a problem is it? At 7 surely she'd be able to gain his attention if she wanted to.