To wonder why being a parent turns some people into A-holes?

[AJ279]

I've been on Facebook this morning and I have seen:

• Someone bleating on about breastfeeding and saying that if someone doesn't at least try to BF that they are failing as a parent.
• Someone saying giving a baby a dummy is lazy parenting
• Someone saying "why have a baby if you are going to dump them on someone else to go out?"
• Several people saying that no child older than 2 should be in a buggy

AND someone saying that if you had a CS you are less of a mother because you didn't actually give birth and others retaliating by saying it makes them more of a mother because they carry a scar, WTAF?!

By no means are these people my friends, it's all on silly little Facebook groups I'd liked when DD was born.

These really boil my blood. Why can people not be supportive?! "Oh you bottle feed, great! You're not putting your baby in the garden and letting them fend for themselves at mealtimes?! Well done you!"

Why do people feel the need to shame others when it comes to parenting and what is it about these people that makes them think they are perfect!!

My DD is bottle fed because she wouldn't latch, she has a dummy and God forbid she goes to grandparents houses for sleepovers every now and again because I want some wine because they enjoy having her and bonding!

AIBU to be fed up of seeing constant 'mum shaming' everywhere?!

You really really need to leave the groups you're in if they're full of those people. Really. You'll go mad with it all otherwise.

Sparklingbrook, that really unfair. The op has not mentioned parking spaces or the dog breastfeeding the baby

I don't think being a parent turns folk into assholes- i reckon these folk have always been assholes and now they just have more/different stuff to be assholey about.

Alternative title "To wonder why social media turns some people into A-holes?"

Its not being a parent that's the problem with some people. It's being able to publish, without any filter, every single mind-blowingly idiotic thought the minute it enters their heads that's the problem.

There are people I once quite liked and thought were kind and open-minded. Then they joined FB and I realised they were actually imbeciles.

I actually know 2 people who were perfectly normal, had kids and became judgemental twats about everyone else's parenting.

One even likes to tell people how to parent teenagers and that she knows best because she has a 3 year old and it's basically the same

Are dogs not meant to breastfeed babies? Why do they have so many nipples then?!

Good question OP

Anyway, if dogs weren't meant to breastfeed babies, they'd have poseable thumbs, to enable them to make bottles of formula.

Take no notice. Your bubz, your rules

That is a question that could be answered in so many ways :o

That list is one of the many reasons I don't have Facebook. My life, my business unless I post on mumsnet

AJ279 isn't that why cats have nipples too?

Agree with Crabbitface. Becoming parents did not turn these people into arseholes, they always were. I have heard most of those sentiments from parents and the childfree.

I have nipples Greg can you milk me?

Like this?

The "neglectful parents" are the silent majority!

Thank fuck for that.

I say that as a parent with a bit of a cold and a severe case of CBA. it would appear that movie Monday has moved seamlessly into TV Tuesday. And I still haven't got dressed. My neglected DC are foraging in the fridge for scraps.

Fuck em

People who spout this shit are usually massively insecure about their own parenting skills.

They were always a-holes, you just didn't mix in the same circles as them before or didn't listen to their opinions much before.

Why do other Mum's, think that anyone gives a shit about what they do with their babies?

I. DON'T. CARE.

I wish they'd just get on with it.

People have been having babies for thousands of years.

It's not new!

'It's being able to publish, without any filter, every single mind-blowingly idiotic thought the minute it enters their heads that's the problem'

So very true. And all delivered as if it were the gospel truth from up on high as well. I agree with the previous poster who said that they are people who need to be seen and heard and to feel important. Quite sad really.

I find it's people who don't even have children, or had them 30 years ago who have a go...

I agree with Blonde though, mums should just get on with it, all babies are raised differently.

Some people are arseholes. Sometimes arseholes become parents. Same as any 'group' of people I guess.

Agree with Blonde

& yes its true you don't have to be a parent to be an arsehole but since OP is about parents then yes, too many of them are and need to wind their necks in and stop aiming to tell other mums what to do and how.

Anyway FB forums are the devil's own playground . Avoid!

Quiet ah I never thought of a cat!! Might have to get one for when the dogs busy