not to want my 5yo DD to be too "sophisticated"?

[BrockleyBird]

Recently went to Parent's Eve at DD's school. She is doing ok academically - good reading; ok maths; appalling handwriting, but will if she has to.
Then we moved onto her social skills. Apparently she is "immature" - won't sit in a corner quietly colouring like most of the other girls; can't sit still for long periods; expects other children to want to do the same as her, or she thinks they don't like her ... but she is very kind and shares and takes turns etc. So bit mixed messages IMHO. The other girls are quite sophisticated - we went to the cinema with one recently to see a funny film and DD laughed out loud for all the jokes, whereas friend quietly grinned. Afterwards, friend's mum said to me, "Oh yes, Honeybun used to laugh like that but she's grown out of it now. It's so sweet your DD still does it." Wasn't sure what to make of it all. I don't want her growing up too fast, but I do want her to have friends and not be left behind ...Any advice/views?

I think you are confusing two things - what the teacher said, and what your experienced of the other child (and her mum). They may be nothing to do with each other

I was the 5yr old who would sit quietly and never laughed out loud. I still don't laugh out loud at 36 years old.

I was not sophisticated, just quiet, a bit shy, and a dreamer.

Kids are all different.

I wonder if the teacher expect 5 year old boys to sit quietly in a corner, colouring?

Anyway I know exactly what you mean op. My dd and her friends were still literally, skipping around when they were 13. I loved that about them.
Just let her carry on doing things she enjoys and don't encourage things like spa days, sitting quietly in corners and watching too much Disney channel.

Thanks bake - I haven't meant to sound judgmental - each to their own. I just worry my DD will be left out by not having the same interests/ engagement/ ability to manage her emotions.
It's been great to hear so many of you still laugh out loud for things. It is one of DD's most endearing traits - she has a very infectious giggle!

My goodness, they expect children to grow up so quickly, its very sad. They have only a small window of childhood, before being an adult. Feel very sorry for op friends child, who is expected to act like a 15 year old, at the grand old age of 5!

Yes each child is different, how boring would it be if every young child to sit quietly and obediently all the time. They are kids fgs, not robots.

Anyone else reminded of the thread with the 11 month old who found crying "embarrassing" so didn't do it anymore? 😁

OP your little girl sounds just right, they are children for such a brief time we should make the most of it while it lasts!