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AIBU?

AIBU to hold child's birthday party on Mother's Day?

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NeverTalksToStrangers · 13/02/2016 00:38

Booked entertainers (3 pretty amazing superheroes) ages ago and now can't change the date as they are all booked up. I only realised the other day.

The latest I can start the party is like 2pm (heroes arrive at 2:30pm) as they have another job later in the day.

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CocktailQueen · 13/02/2016 08:29

DS has a party on Mother's Day. Fine with me! We don't do restaurants on Mother's Day - overpriced hype!

KayJBee · 13/02/2016 08:29

Wouldn't bother me, its just another day in our house, nothing special, maybe a card if I'm lucky. All 3 of mine have birthdays within a few weeks of mothers day and we've had parties on the day before, never been a problem. We've booked a joint party for 2 of ours this year and when i booked, I didn't realise it was mothers day either. We've sent out 22 invitations, I would expect at least 20 to come.

LettingAgentNightmare · 13/02/2016 08:32

It wouldn't even occur to me not to send my child.

Mothers Day means nothing to me. I'd rather my child had a good time at a party then have the forced saccharin sweetness Halmark have created shoved down my throat all day.

BaronessEllaSaturday · 13/02/2016 08:32

We are another who wouldn't be able to attend. We are away for the weekend visiting my mother.

JellyTotCat · 13/02/2016 08:34

I think it wouldn't be a problem for mums who only spend time with their own kids on mothers day, but more of an issue for people who meet in laws or their own mum.

ScottishDiblet · 13/02/2016 08:42

It wouldn't bother me at all! If I wanted to do something for Mother's Day I would do it in the morning or the day before. Honestly an invitation to a supercool party is way more fun than trying to make a big deal out of Mother's Day. Hope it goes well!

OhYouLuckyDuck · 13/02/2016 08:45

We regularly have this with DS's birthday as it's often on the mother's day weekend. It's never been a problem.

JizzyStradlin · 13/02/2016 08:48

YANBU, but you need to expect a reduced turnout because for a lot of people it's a family day. People are often travelling to see grandmothers etc. It doesn't really matter whether any individuals on this thread don't celebrate however much a couple of them might congratulate themselves because the salient point is that some people do. I agree with previous posters that DC who are staying local may still be able to attend, it's those who are travelling to visit grandmothers or have grandmothers visiting them that may simply be unavailable.

lilydaisyrose · 13/02/2016 08:52

My son is invited to a party on Mothers' day this year - it didn't occur to me not to accept. its just breakfast in bed and some flowers here, then just a normal day. Cards for Mum & MiL and that's it.

NeverTalksToStrangers · 13/02/2016 08:55

I'm so pleased that b the general consensus is that most wouldn't have a problem with it. I've already told 2 mothers.

Thanks for the responses.

For a treat for you all, this is who I'm getting... Ideally batman will be Thor instead (as that's his favourite) but the costume is currently in production so it may have to be Batman.

AIBU to hold child's birthday party on Mother's Day?

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JizzyStradlin · 13/02/2016 08:57

I would definitely tell everyone as early as possible. The ones who'll be away are inevitably going to miss it, nothing to be done about that and the risk you take if you hold an event on Mothers Day. But there'll be some people who haven't arranged anything yet but whose families are local and could decide to eg see grandmothers in the evening rather than the afternoon if you give them enough notice.

JellyTotCat · 13/02/2016 09:01

The costumes look good. What entertainment are they providing?

tobysmum77 · 13/02/2016 09:02

Yeah dd went to a mother's day party a couple of years ago. A few people had obviously declined but as long as it's a big party rather than one with 10 invited it that shouldn't matter too much.

I think it is a bit unreasonable to expect people to plan around it though, it either works or it doesn't for people I think. Early invites usually mean no responses for ages.

JizzyStradlin · 13/02/2016 09:08

The early invite is more about giving people the opportunity to plan around it. As there'll be people who do celebrate and eg like to take gran to lunch, but would be just as happy to take her for brunch or an evening meal instead if there was something on in the afternoon. The people who aren't going to be free at any point during the day and the people who don't celebrate at all are both sorted, in different ways, it's the middle ground who OP needs to try and get hold of.

I take the point that people often don't respond for ages though. That is true.

mckenzie · 13/02/2016 09:08

DS's birthday falls near Father's Day and we often have a smallish take up whichever Sunday we do the party on.

You've spent the money now and there is nothing you can do about the turnout.
Most mothers would I'm sure enjoy some time out on Mother's Day where their DC is being entertained by somebody else 😀

Enjoy it,and early happy birthday to the wee one.

DisappointedOne · 13/02/2016 09:12

In general people would have plans.

Would they?

Etak15 · 13/02/2016 09:13

We'd go to a party on Mother's Day, no problem.I'm often at work on Mother's Day, so was my mum so never been a big thing it's just a made up commercial thing we've adopted from the states, you can have your own special time with your mum any day you like! I think my dc would rather be at a party than being stuck at home or in some overcrowded overpriced restaurant!! It'll be fine.

seastargirl · 13/02/2016 09:16

I'd say cake and prosecco will be there to wish all the mum's a happy mother's day

MrsJayy · 13/02/2016 09:16

Get the invites out asap people might not have booked Lunch yet and see how it goes mine have been to parties on Mothers day its not a huge deal imo I am sure his friends would rather be at a party and mums get a bit of peace

MrsJayy · 13/02/2016 09:21

Motheing Sunday has not been adopted from the US dont be daft the US mothers day is in May.

MrsJayy · 13/02/2016 09:22

Mmmm Thor can I come

What2 · 13/02/2016 09:24

It wouldn't bother me at all. We don't do Mother's Day. coz it's naff

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Etak15 · 13/02/2016 09:27

It may be a different date but the idea has come from there.

NeverTalksToStrangers · 13/02/2016 09:30

I've texted any of the parents whose mobile numbers i have to give them some notice. Invitations can go out next week (school off a few days though).

The heroes show them some poses/moves etc. The Iron-man suit is interactive. They talk to them about shield etc. Pose for pics etc. I'll still need party games etc but it's just for the novelty.

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MrsJayy · 13/02/2016 09:32

A quick google will tell you otherwise but heyho its been going on from the 16th century

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