To bin my sisters cheap non stick saucepans and buy her some new ones

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She has some awful non stick saucepans where half of the non stick has come away and she still uses them. This can't be good for her or her family right? Will be eating bits of plastic in everything she cooks no doubt.

I want to just order her some new ones and tell her to bin the ones she has. Would it be cheeky to buy her these? www.amazon.co.uk/Circulon-Infinite-Hard-Anodised-Cookware/dp/B0018S13MM/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1455092547&sr=8-2&keywords=anolon+saucepans

I've offered to buy her some and she's said oh no she's fine with hers, but I would still like to.

How can you accidentally leave a pan at her house? Do you usually take a pan with you when you visit? :o

I think you are kind to offer, but she has said no, and isn't "No." meant to be a complete sentence on MN? :o

I do actually think it is quite patronising and insulting to go ahead with trying to replace her pans when she has said no, despite your good intentions she is an adult and it is not your choice to make, you are implying you know better than her and therefore get to overrule her about the minutiae of her own household arrangements...

If you were my I would bite your arm off right now for those pans.

But she said no and you should respect that.

My sister.

Unless you regularly cook for your sister's family in her house, YABU.

She is a grown up and free to do what she wants. Let her buy her own pans in her own time.

My sister and her family don't really eat fruit or vegetables, like most of the population outside Mumsnet. Obviously I think it would be ideal if they ate better but they don't, as is their choice. None of my business.

I have the circulon pans myself and they are excellent and are even dishwasher safe, which is rare for non stick pans.

How can you accidentally leave a pan at her house? Do you usually take a pan with you when you visit?

That's s very good point! We sometimes do bits of a meal each but I think a pp is right in that she wouldn't use it herself before returning it to you.

Very boring but practical birthday present?! I'd love to get new pans as a birthday gift but if your sister isn't that sort of person I'd just let her get on with it. It isn't as if her pans have mush of an influence on your life is it?

Don't do it when she's said no, that's intrusive even though you mean well. We had someone staying with us (overstaying her welcome but that's another story) who was so shocked that we used a sieve to drain rice and pasta when apparently it should only be used for flour and insisted on buying us a colander. The thing is, we don't need to use the sieve for flour because we don't bake. It was doing it's job just fine and space is at a premium in our kitchen so we didn't need two items that do the same thing. I know it's silly but I feel annoyed every time I see that colander because we told her that we didn't want it and she went out and bought it anyway but I don't feel I can throw it away because it was a gift.

She said no. Have some respect for other people's autonomy.

Why did she say no?

She said no so leave her to use whatever pans she wants. I have family members who think they know better and it pisses me off.

how on earth do you accidentally leave a pan at someones house? is it something you often carry round with you and just get out at family members houses?

Think this would be a major hint and given that shes said No already it would be overstepping the mark. If shes happy leave her and her pans be!

The OP will I imagine be back at some point to point out that she's not BU and all the reasons why she never thought she was.

Don't do it - she said she doesn't want them. My sister does this with baking stuff and related paraphernalia - I don't bake, I don't like to, I'd rather eat my own eyes, my sister keeps whittering on about how great it is, how if I just tried it, how she just happened to see all this reduced baking stuff and thought she'd "treat" me. It's only a treat/gift if someone wants it. She's become a bit of a pain in the arse about it.

Of course it's rude to buy pans when DSis has said she doesn't want them! How could that not be rude?

If you're desperate to buy someone a new set of pans, I'll send you my address.

The chemicals are seriously toxic.

I asked for some Tefal non stick pans in my wedding list. Yes, I did include it in the invitations because I expected people to buy a present. No, I didn't include a poem.

Anyway, 23 years of almost daily usage later they are still going strong but we have eaten the non-stick coating. On that score, we're not going to live long enough to justify the expense of premium pans. I did get some Le Creuset pans about 20 years ago before the prices went crazy and they will outlive us.

If I had my time over again I'd ask for top quality pans from the outset and bugger anyone who thinks I'm grabby and entitled. My wedding. My rules.

I agree that they are toxic, that's probably why its best not to eat them! It's probably not as bad as many other things in the home tbh. But I ordered her the non stick ones as that what she likes, I only use them rarely for stuff like porridge that the dishwasher cant clean off.

Limited its better to have a few quality things than lots of shit.