Hi, this is my first time posting on here so sorry if its a bit long and I start rambling! Basically I seem to be having massive issues with my gran who has decided she never wants to speak to me again. My nan has given me a lot of help financially over the years and while this has been helpful, it does seem to give her a bigger sense of entitlement in both my life and my 9 day old sons. She can be a vindictive woman when she doesn't get her own way and because of this the family has learned to never challenge her on anything because its not worth one of her grudges which can last months on end. My main issue is that she has a pretty severe health problem with her joints and bones which leaves her unable to hold things or stand up very well. She brakes and drops things on a regular basis but refuses to accept that she's not as healthy as she once was. She came over two days after my stay in hospital to visit the baby. My cousin was happily holding him and hadn't been holding him very long before she walked over and attempted to take him out of cousins arms. My fiance was quick and went over and politely said that it was ok and he would bring the baby to her. She clearly didn't like this and accused fiance of not trusting her to hold the baby. However, he let it slide and took the baby over to her. Later on my fiance left the room and immediately she got up with the baby and started rocking him. She looked so shaky, I was terrified! Her husband sternly told her to sit back down but she continued to stand saying she had her injections for her bones and was fine. I was a nervous wreck! My fiance was very nervous of the baby in the first day or so after our return from the hospital and she was very aware of this. My fiance stroked the top of the baby's head gently for het to snap, "you shouldn't touch the top of his head!" She was clearly trying to get at him for not letting her carry him before. Annoyingly, she has been unreasonable with phone calls and visits since. My mother told her not to phone us as the baby was not sleeping during the night and fiance had paternity which we were trying to enjoy. She phoned every day. When I hadn't answered after a couple of days she phoned my mum laying on the guilt saying she "only wanted to talk". After this didn't work she sent me a passive aggressive text beginning with "since you wont answer any of my calls maybe you will answer a text." She has asked my mum if she can visit every day knowing full well that we are absolutely exhausted and seems to be constantly paranoid my mum is going to come visit without her! I could deal with the little annoyances but the reason I'm putting her of is I cant stand the thought of her shakily holding him while standing up which has led to us falling out. I guess I'm asking whether I'm being reasonable in asking her to only hold him while sitting down or am I being over protective..?