AIBU in really hating holidaying with other families?

[BourbonChicken]

We have been away with quite a few other families over the years. I have come to the conclusion that it's more trouble than it's worth. It's lovely for the kids to have others to play with. Probably a better holiday for them really. However, I cannot stand the having to be with another family 24/7 for days at a time, however nice they might be.

Then, there is the issue of different attitudes to money. I have been away with people who are really tight fisted, which makes me feel guilty if we want to have a nice lunch some where.

Am I just a curmudgeon, or does anyone else feel like this?

YANBU
Totally agree much prefer going away with just our family. You can please yourself and you have no-one to answer to. I like the fact my children make friends with others (if they want to) when they get there.

I love it but DH less so, I think most is can get on with people for a few days but a week is plenty

My ex and I used to holiday with friends a lot. His parents had a holiday home and we would usually invite friends to join us there. It was always lots of fun, from a house full of 20 something couples, to in our 30's with small kids. Then they sold it .

One of the best holidays I had was with a group of friends, and two couples we did not know. Got a massive (13 bedrooms) farmhouse in France. All turned up with our kids, all about the same age. We all mucked in together with looking after the kids, shopping and each couple took turns cooking in the evening. We had a couple of cars with us and we would go off on our own in the day if we wanted and if a couple wanted to go out in the evening the rest would babysit. It was brilliant.

Current DH would hate to do that.

We've done it loads of times. I prefer one other family to lots, as it just becomes chaos with lots. The benefits are you get to stay somewhere with great facilities eg your own pool if you're sharing the cost. Dc have someone to play with and love it. It's a bit like having a party every night. We take turns to make meals then just keep receipts to ensure spending's relatively fair. It only works with people who can share facilities. You've just got to be considerate really.

I can't think of anything worse to be honest. We usually select places where there's other kids anyway (resorts, eurocamp...) so that kids find other kids to play with but there's no pressure on the parents to socialise.

We've done it loads of times, with either one family or a lot of families and it's always been great. However, I think the trick to it is only to do one week, and have a week alone as well. That way, you don't wear out the welcome.

YANBU. we went away with a family we thought were lovely, only to find out there was a rule that until their children had eaten all their dinner on their plate for the children's meal, adults couldn't have a drink or dinner.

I found myself near hating their eldest as she sat there stubbornly refusing to eat her dinner at 9:30pm.... (in my defence, she's actually a lovely girl, but hunger can do strange things to one's mind). we don't force our children to finish their plate which made the problem even worse.

Plus they turned out to be big on physical discipline, whereas we are absolutely not - such a mismatch!

Good god no thank you, never ever.
I don't like people, can you tell.
Small bursts, parties or days out are fine, being forced to spend a weekend or longer is my idea of hell.

I can tolerate my family for this much time -- just!

Few weekends ago went to a Sunday lunch with some friends, they other visitor with 2 under 5s has a very child orientated parenting style, despite everyone else being at the table neither child was made to sit at the table or eat the food lovingly cooked by our host. They just danced around, then grizzled. When we were onto coffee the parent decided to give them some fruit whilst they ran around. I managed the meal without saying anything, I don't think I could have done a couple of days. The host was very good and I know she has this family over quite regularly and so maybe it doesn't bother her or her DC who still sit at the table until they are done.

Holidays are hard enough with a grumpy DH and an even grumpier teenager - my idea of a good holiday is just me and a girl friend . And I've booked it for this year!!