No I am not bloody broody!!!

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Might out myself here .... Hey ho!!!!

I'm 21+18 and have 3 DC. Ds8 DD 4 and our disabled DS6.

DS6 is still in nappies, he can't talk, requires a wheelchair as he can't walk far, his favourite programmes are on baby tv. He functions around 18-24 months. He has a rare gene mutation along with Cerebal palsy, epilepsy and autism. He is fed using a gastrostomy.
He wakes at 2-3 am and that's his morning so I am over over over over over overtired.

People are asking me "am I broody!?"

No I'm not .... I own a fucking massive 6 year old baby to be fair he is absolutely beautiful and only the size of a 4 year old but he's still massive.

I probably am being unreasonable as its mums my age who have gone on to have more than 3 children and I holding their newborn!!!

Don't bother ... I know I ABU but.....

I'm not broody !!!!!!

Very odd question to ask someone who has 3 kids already, let alone someone who has the additional work of a SN child. Why would they even think this? Odd. Very odd. Say "No, I have enough on my plate, don't you think?"

hmm to all the people going hmm , let's look past the irrelevant stuff and give her a bit of support, eh?

It isn't I relevant as people were genuinely confused. Posters are allowed to ask for confirmation. it isn't exactly a usual way to write your age!

I had it to OP. You just have to ignore it.

Plus the people that questioned me know I am unable to have any of my own DC so a double blow.

Plus the people that questioned me know I am unable to have any of my own DC so a double blow.

Posted too soon.

Plus those that asked me knew I am unable to have my own DC so a double whammy.

Sorry don't know what happened there. Wouldn't post they all appeared

People just seem to think women are always broody. I havnt even given birth to ds2 and at least 3 people (one beiing mil) have asked when we are having the 3rd. We aren't sure we want a 3rd (naturally anyway as I quite like the idea of adopting) and if we do decide to have a 3rd I'm pretty sure inhave to wait until my uterus is empty!!
op I'm sure people don't think before they speak but it can be hurtful!!

my eldest is Autistic, youngest getting SALT and under the child development centre querry Autism (i and others can see a lot of traits) and this week middle son has seen the Ed psyc and suddenly they've querried Autism - which i've never seen, but don't want to be deffensive parrent either.

I love babies, little ones and bigger ones but if i as so much as smile at a baby those around me, particularly family, say ohh you planning the next one now then.

I wish they could walk a day in my shoes and simultaneously I'm glad for them they don't have a clue.

I try to focus on those things I can do something about, not easy but there's enough on my plate without poentially displaced irritation and it sounds like you're in that same boat. People, generally are thoughtless not intentionally malicious.

I had doctors asking me if I was going to have a third child when I was still pregnant with my second! I know that they were doing so in context of my health, but it still seemed a pretty odd question considering I didn't even know how I was going to cope with two children let alone have any fixed ideas about whether I would want to add to my brood!

I could understand the reasons for doctors asking, but anyone who has no specific medical reason to has no business enquiring, implying, hinting or otherwise alluding to anyone's family planning activities. It's massively rude, not to mention intrusive, tactless and vastly insensitive and I am amazed that people don't realise just what a minefield they are stepping into when they embark on those lines of questioning.

why why why would anyone ask a mum of three that never mind a mum who has a child with disabilities who needs lots of extra time and care

Maybe they think you're an excellent, natural mother?

Actually, I would never assume that a parent of a SN child wouldn't want more children. Why shouldn't you be as broody, theoretically, as any other mother of 3?

The early waking sounds tough, but you sound very capable. Best wishes OP.

Sorry for the confusion about the age .... Yes okay I'm nearly 40!!!!! You made me say it!!!!

Thread was a little lighthearted!

Thank you for all the &.

I just think some people are a bit crazed... Even our DD wasn't planned she just arrived through a bloody condom! Our Ds6 spent most of his 1st year in and out of hospital and when we thought things were getting better, along came that little pink line!

She has been amazing though even with the dairy intolerance! Has been great that DS8 has someone more interactive.
Thanks again everyone... X