Right, I think I am up to some honesty! Having a bit of a tough time and am aware that I may not be perceiving things rationally.
Background - best friend of 20 years; lives very near, god mothers to each other's children, shared holidays etc. Close but not in each other's pockets.
My mum is terminally ill. (That is hard to type) Only one possible treatment through major surgery. Went to a regional specialist centre two hours away from home two weeks ago for surgery to be performed. Risk that she may not survive the surgery. In the event, she very nearly didn't; had a cardiac arrest, very unstable and they decided not to proceed. So now nothing else can be done. All a shock and quite traumatic seeing someone you love deteriorate and suffer. Stressful supporting my distraught dad.
Mum is known to best friend well. On the day of the unsuccessful surgery I texted her an update. Prior to this she hadn't shown much support or interest in how mum was. The reply I received was 'what a disappointment'. I have heard nothing since. No text, phone call, knock at the door.
So: aibu for having unrealistic expectations of her? Is it my responsibility to reach out to her?
Or is she being unkind? Through her lack of contact all I can assume is that she doesn't care. What might I have overlooked?
I am a bit wobbly emotionally and trying to carry on working (in caring profession so giving to others) while keeping things on a level for my kids and traveling to see mum every other day so friend's needs aren't at the top of my list at the moment.
Just need perspective cos I feel angry and a bit hurt.