DCs' significant birthday - shouldn't my DP do something?

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DP has history for not doing much to celebrate birthdays - I've always bought 80% of the DC's presents, birthday tea, cake, organised parties etc.

This year they hit 18. (twins)

DP has done nada, zip, sweet FA, towards it. He works long hours stressful job and does his fair share around the house, can't criticise there at all.

But I too work long hours, proper FT job, yet I've managed to get presents, fancy cakes etc

AIBU to think that he should have done something for them?

I think you need to tell him what to do.

Are you ok with alcohol? Of so they are 18 so legally allowed to go into lots of new places. How about asking him to find/book somewhere grown-up/nice for dinner. Or go to a jazz club or something similar.

As a mother to a 19 and 21 year old Iam really surprised that you had any decisions to make. Surely your children told you what they wanted as a present and where they wanted their party and you just paid for it?

Or are my children jut very forward?

Yanbu. Can easily see this being us in a few years. This year dh didn't even know what dc were getting for Xmas. Adds to his surprise I suppose (weak grin)

None of mine have wanted a party (1 more to go so probably speaking too soon) but we have discussed the present together in advance.

Imbroglio - you have really made me think. Y'see my DS will be 18 in September but there's the problem - September babies are old for their school year. Most of his school friends will still be 17. Perhaps a house party will be the way to go. Alcohol available, some will bring it, and not posted about on social media ( don't want them gatecrashers )