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Original poster

to think that it's daft to post this on FB

23 replies

SpeedingSnail · 06/02/2016 09:28

A FB friend who has a son at the same school as DS has posted about the police being called to a party that her DS was at. What on earth do people post stuff like this on FB for? I'd be mortified if that happened to my DS and wouldn't be shouting it from the rooftops.

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AlpacaMyThings · 06/02/2016 09:30

Attention seeking.

What happened hun?
Sorry, Can't talk about it,
PM me, hun

repeat til lunchtime/next drama

CurlyhairedAssassin · 06/02/2016 09:38

I don't get it? Don't see what's wrong with that, unless it was said in a boastful way and her son was the one causing the trouble (look how much of a rebel my son is).

I hardly look at Facebook anymore because I hate the way some people post but I fail to see the issue with posting about that. it's quite an unusual thing to happen at a party and if my sons were at a party that got out of hand enough to call the police I would be horrified enough to comment abou it on Facebook.

Unless the host parent was also a Facebook friend ad was upset by it all - then I'd be messaging them out of concern not using it as a piece of gossip.

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SpeedingSnail · 06/02/2016 09:56

I just think that FB isn't a place for that kind of thing, prospective employers check FB apparently and so I think it's inappropriate. Dirty laundry belongs in the washing machine and not on FB.

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pictish · 06/02/2016 09:59

Eh? What's the problem with that? That's not incriminating or overly personal in any way!

imwithspud · 06/02/2016 10:05

Meh, it might not be what you would post on your profile but obviously said FB friend doesn't have a problem with it, maybe she's a bit more laid back about the things she chooses to share. Her Facebook, her choice. Regarding prospective employers checking Facebook, if you have your privacy settings set quite high, they won't be able to see status updates.

I can't abide FB Police, no one forces you to look. Just unfollow or unfriend people if you disagree with what they share.

WorraLiberty · 06/02/2016 10:14

I don't understand this?

It wasn't his party the police were called to, so how does it look bad on him? Confused

Also regarding prospective employers, are you assuming the person has left their settings open to public?

GloriaHotcakes · 06/02/2016 10:15

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theycallmemellojello · 06/02/2016 10:16

I don't think that's a big deal...

Krampus · 06/02/2016 10:17

I don't see what's wrong with that, it's an unusual event, unless shes boasting that he caused the problems. I wouldnt post something like that because I have aunts and uncles as friends on FB but thats how I use it, as a pleasant family catch up. If I only had my actual friends on it my posts would be very different.

Read up about privacy settings.

pictish · 06/02/2016 10:36

Unless her profile is set to public, how would prospective employers see it? That is assuming she's job hunting in the first place. Is she job hunting? And is her profile public?
Otherwise, what are you on about?

pictish · 06/02/2016 10:39

And even if she is job hunting and her profile is public...a teen party broken up by police is hardly an outlandish shocker is it? It wasn't even her kid's party!
What is your beef?

pictish · 06/02/2016 10:41

And why would you be 'mortified'?

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SpeedingSnail · 06/02/2016 11:27

I wouldn't want people knowing that's all.

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AlwaysHopeful1 · 06/02/2016 11:33

You're being a bit silly. Why would prospective employers be looking at his mother's fb profile? Maybe just unfriend them if it's too much for you to handle.

escapedfrommordor · 06/02/2016 11:38

Maybe her profile is private... Surely you can find something more enjoyable to do today rather besides clutching your pearls?

hefzi · 06/02/2016 13:09

Dirty laundry belongs in the washing machine and not on FB

^^ Brilliant, OP!

JohnLuther · 06/02/2016 13:12

There's nothing wrong with what she has posted.

harrasseddotcom · 06/02/2016 13:27

Another one not understanding the problem.

Dirty laundry belongs in the washing machine and not on FB - I fucking hate this. People can put on fb what they want as long as its not illegal. Basically this harps back to the days when bad shit happened you kept it to yourself and said nowt. Which was great if you were Jimmy Saville or one of his cronies.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 06/02/2016 14:01

Ffs. Yabu.

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speedingsnail · 06/02/2016 14:03

Exactly. Bad shit happens and I keep it to myself. There is a lot of bad shit in my life at times and in that of others that I know but we keep it to ourselves and don't put it in FB.

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tobysmum77 · 06/02/2016 14:10

A DS being at a party where the police are called its hardly 'bad shit' or something to be mortified about. Blimey that even happened to me in my youth ......

imwithspud · 06/02/2016 14:10

How do you know your FB 'friend' doesn't have bad shit going on that she doesn't post on Facebook as well? I wouldn't call what you say she posted 'bad' as such, unless her son was the culprit and she was boasting about it in some way.

You're really clutching at straws here.

WorraLiberty · 06/02/2016 14:16

Police being called to a party was par for the course when I was a teenager Grin

It's not exactly 'bad shit', unless her DC got arrested.

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