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To want to be left alone

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WhatTheActualFugg · 05/02/2016 23:13

In the bathroom?

I just want to sit on the loo and have a piss in peace.

But apparently I'm not allowed 5 mins in the bathroom on my own before bed. Oh no, that won't do. DH has to walk and start his own bathroom activities before I'm done.

I feel like there's no escape. Someone is constantly fucking hounding me!!

(And before you ask there are two other bathrooms he could use if he can't wait.)

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Original poster
WhatTheActualFugg · 06/02/2016 10:40

OK, so slightly OT, but along the same lines.

Do you think is is acceptable to use the downstairs loo adjoining the kitchen / diner when needing a stinky visit?

It is that being too precious?

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monkeysox · 06/02/2016 10:54

Fucking hell coat how have you managed that. I'd have exploded hundreds of times.
How do you never trump?

If you want a relaxing bath for an hours peace fair enough. But I wouldn't care if someone in the family brushed teeth while I had a wee, especially if there's only one bathroom.

monkeysox · 06/02/2016 10:55

Fugg it would depend if there were visitors at the time!

TooMuchOfEverything · 06/02/2016 10:59

Our rule is to use the downstairs loo for stinkers, if possible. Then clean it!!

Upstairs loo is in bathroom and people need to use for teeth, showers, etc so it's busier.

peggyundercrackers · 06/02/2016 11:05

ivr never really understood people who leave bathroom doors open - why would you want to see anyone else doing whatever it is they are doing? Definitely stop the kids going in or they will just continue doing it when they grow up.

honeysucklejasmine · 06/02/2016 11:15

Isn't there supposed to be at least two doors between the kitchen and a toilet? For hygiene reasons?

Because yes, doing a stinky poo near good is gross.

2rebecca · 06/02/2016 11:47

Can't you just open the window, spray air freshener and close the door when you exit (and whilst in there for open plan toileters!). We just have 1 bathroom so special loos for different occasions seems weird to me.

2rebecca · 06/02/2016 11:48

I hate ple who don't open the bathroom window after doing a poo.

Audweb81 · 06/02/2016 11:51

I told my DH not to come into the toilet when I was getting ready for bed, his arguement was we're a couple and he's seen everything anyway, I pointed out that with a three year old in our life I am fed up of my toliet activities being a performance for people and to just let me pee in peace. I hear you. Going back to work next week after months off. I'm mostly excited about peeing in peace.

WorraLiberty · 06/02/2016 11:55

I'll never understand people who don't lock the bathroom door.

Just fix the lock.

dementedma · 06/02/2016 13:45

Ooh ragwort I found my soul sister. Thought I was the only one who didn't do the bath sharing, kids in the loo thing.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 06/02/2016 14:06

I read somewhere that kids see it as an opportunity to be alone with mom - don't know why!!

DH did this to me this morning!!! He yelled "how was I supposed to know"

I get at least 5 visits in a short pee time - more if I dare have a bath!! and kids are supposed to be in bed

Maybe they worry we're lonely??

dementedma · 06/02/2016 14:13

Why do you all let them come in when you are on the loo? I read all the time about people complaining they can't pee in peace. I genuinely don't understand it....( obvs unless with child with SN who might meltdown or hurt themselves if left alone)
Seriously, after the young toddler stage ( and often not then) I've never been mithered by children to come in when I'm in the loo or in the bath. Each to their own I suppose...Smile

OzzieFem · 06/02/2016 14:24

Perhaps it relates back to our ancestral past? Just like dogs and cats have to go and smell where other animals have been, maybe we do it unconsciously? Wink

2rebecca · 06/02/2016 14:57

yuk to coming and smelling it! I think if you want someone to find you sexy allowing them to gawp at you relieving yourself isn't conducive to that.
I like privacy on the toilet and in the bath and that didn't change when I had kids.

LogicalThinking · 06/02/2016 15:06

Bathroom privacy has always been important to me. Even when my kids were little I thought it was important to be able to shut myself behind a door and the kids know that whatever it is they want me for, it can wait for 2 minutes. And I don't do conversations through bathroom doors.
With DH, if the door is closed, it's do not disturb.

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WhatTheActualFugg · 06/02/2016 18:06

Childish snigger at gawp at you relieving yourself Wink

Is it Wine time yet?

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RaspberryOverload · 06/02/2016 18:30

monkeysox I don't think coat is all that unusual. I've not heard my nearly 16 year old DD fart since she was about 2 yrs. She just doesn't seem to do it at all.

I did teach the DCs to leave me alone in the bathroom. I'd have gone nuts if I hadn't had that few moments of peace.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 06/02/2016 22:30

No, what I meant was, what if you had been having a poo? Would he have walked in anyway? How do you signal - NO ENTRY, if you don't want to have to lock the door?

And of course I actually trump - I just wait until I can get to a bathroom. Don't most people? I'd die a death if I did that in front of anyone.

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WhatTheActualFugg · 06/02/2016 22:38

where his love for me knows no bounds. So, no, a shit would not stop him! Shock

We live in a rickety old house. Nothing is straight or works properly so most of the time the doors are a PITA to close. Lots of ramming etc.

But new bathroom rules have been adhered to today so they've all earnt themselves a sticker Grin

My 3yo DS is really enjoying being allowed in the loo alone with the door shut. It makes him feel very grown up. He even puts both the seat AND the lid down. which is two things more than my FIL can manage

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kawliga · 07/02/2016 02:42

I think if you want someone to find you sexy allowing them to gawp at you relieving yourself isn't conducive to that.

This is a popular fetish. Some people find it very sexy to watch others wee and poo.

Haven't you heard about those pervs who secretly film women in the loo? It's a turn on for them.

Flashbangandgone · 07/02/2016 08:51

I just don't care. If I'm happy for my dh to perform cunnilingus, why would I care if he walks in when I'm on the toilet or brushing my teeth or in the shower/ bath?

Ok if that works for you, but I think the assumption that because you are intimate at times with someone that you therefore should feel be open to intimacy (in this case relieving yourself) at all times rather strange.

I want to be naked and vulnerable with my DP at times... I don't want to be naked and vulnerable with my DP all the time. Isn't that healthy? I think the OP INBU.

monkeysox · 07/02/2016 11:40

Raspberry my mini monkeys pop trumps out all the time.

Does depend what they've eaten though. Just shows how different we all are. I do loads too and would be in and out of the loo all day if I had to go there for pumps.

Bunbaker · 07/02/2016 11:45

"But it seems a bit rude to lock the door on a spouse."

No it doesn't. We all lock doors on each other and we all respect bathroom privacy. It isn't difficult. OH and I grew up with the idea that bathroom time was private and we have instigated that in DD.

Fortunately we have two bathrooms in our house so it isn't an issue.

Get that lock mended and use it. I hate going to other people's houses and using the loo in a bathroom without a lock.

RaspberryOverload · 07/02/2016 23:40

monkeysox My DS, OTOH, is capable of some truly vile farts, and I sometimes wonder how the hell a small boy can produce them.

He also has a good lines in blowing some disgusting raspberries.....

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