AIBU to want to slap the s**t out of people who announce other people's news on FB?

[IPokeBadgers]

I know, I am sure this has been done to death but I have the rage! Once again I have found out about the birth of a friends baby because of the competitive posting on FB by another friend who obviously needs the dubious honour of being first to post public congratulations on the new mum's timeline.

I mean, who the feck does that? FFS, let the parents make the public announcement about the new arrival....have the basic manners to wait until they have had a chance to draw breath and get around their nearest and dearest before posting it for all and sundry.

Funnily enough, the congratulations message has been removed [I can only assume by the mother of the newly arrived....]

I am currently keeping two big news events (one a baby and the other a job) secret. Would never ever dream of putting anything on Facebook until my friends have announced it themselves. I truly don't understand why people do this. it's just incredibly rude.

YANBU

the birth of my baby was broken to the world if FB by an estranged aunt who had heard the news second hand from another family member. If I hadn't been cooped up in hospital I'd have liked to give her a slap.

Ffs, it's basic good manners to let people announce their own fucking news

SIL has this down to a fine art, I agree with the poster who called them FB desperados, she is desperate to be the centre of attention by all her friends. Every post the truth is stretched - my brother had to go to the walk in and then sent on to hospital, yes very worrying, SIL message was that he had collapsed, couldn't breath and rushed off as an emergency to hospital. Cue lots of OMG, what's happening hun, how much bad news can you take, saying a prayer for him from the FB friends. Once he returned home 'from his near death, last breath' experience the post was swiftly removed.

The most thoughtless however was when our very young cousin passed away totally unexpectedly. Within 10 minutes of taking the call from DM she had posted her 'respects and thoughts to our family etc etc message'. This time I was outraged, it was a tragic, personal private family matter and apart from myself and mom not one of the other family members are her FB friends. She had only seen our cousin and his direct family once 8 years ago at my wedding and then to top it all put my brother on such a huge guilt trip that he did not travel the 200 miles the funeral. (yes he should have manned up and made the choice but that is another thread)

I still cannot understand why she would have broadcast this news to all of her 950 friends when 947 of them did not know our cousin.

I have similar furiosa . There is a picture on Facebook of me and DS in the recovery bay, having literally just been wheeled out of theatre post EMCS 5 minutes before. I am in a backless gown, white as a sheet post significant blood loss, covered in drips and cannulas and look like I've been hit by a truck. DS is still wrapped in the scratchy towel they used to wipe him, and is all kinds of furious.

It was a private, intensely vulnerable moment, which was on FB and commented on by hundreds of the person in question's friends (congratulating her by the way, not me or DH) before I got feeling back in my legs. I wasnt even aware that the picture had been taken (person in question had made a huge fuss and been allowed in to see DS 'first'...I had been too flattened to raise an objection).

YANBU OP. It certainly opened my eyes

Hmmm just read my post back- I do sound very cross. I think I have vented here as I never, ever acknowledge her posts on FB unless it is to like a photo of our lovely nephew and niece.

I couldn't help but laugh at a situation that happened on fb a couple of years ago.
Typical thunder stealing moment - someone announces "I'm an AUNTEEEE!" long before the parents can do an announcement themselves. Someone commented and asked about the sex of the baby and another person told them.
Cue fb thunder-stealing Aunteeee to throw a hissy fit at them. Her exact words were "How could you do that? Don't you think my brother and his wife would have liked to announce that first?"
I don't think she could irony of it.
My mum revealed the sex and the name we had chosen for our first child on fb minutes after I had told her the results of my 20 week scan. I was upset about it, though she couldn't see why. Still, my anger was enough to let her know not to do it again.