To be hurt that my dd was excluded?

[UnpreparedMum]

I noticed whispering & mobile numbers being swapped at nursery last week then this morning there were lots of whispers & high jinks about one little boys birthday party yesterday. My dd wasn't invited. She isn't in the same key group as birthday boy but we do walk up to nursery with him & his Mum most days, alongside a few others (who were all invited). I wouldn't say my dd & birthday were best friends but they do get along and it feels pretty brutal to me. I think the whispers have made it all feel so much worse and perhaps if she'd mentioned it to me & explained why dd wasn't invited (limited places, cost etc) I wouldn't feel so hurt for her.

Was that me. My little boy is at nursery and had a birthday party after the morning session last week. I could only invite 12 out of a possible 40, as I did not have the funds to invite everyone , so I invited everyone who ds wanted and some who I thought were his friends. Sorry if that was you

YANBU. This happened to me today, picked up DD1 from preschool today and every other child except her had a party invite. It is upsetting and hopefully it's an honest mistake. If she has deliberately excluded my DD I'd like to know why. School mums can be like overgrown children sometimes.

How old are the children - guessing pretty young if nursery? I think it is pretty hard in a nursery situation as so many children do different sessions it isn't like being at school and in a class.

Personally I always do either whole class invites or all of the boys/girls when they're young then move onto a few close friends when they get older. But our school has very strict guidelines on the issuing of invites.

I do remember the first party I was aware my eldest wasn't invited to - I sat in the car and cried

It is tough, as it has happened to ds. A mum had a big hall party for nearly all of the morning session in ds nursery, ds was one of the few not invited. However he likes that boy wh party it was and wanted him to come to his party so I sucked it up like you do, and invited him.

It's just one of those things, you learn to grow a thick skin over time, your DC learns they can't be invited to all parties, especially if they do not play with or close to the birthday child.

I do understand it's hard if you feel others have been invited and your child left out. At that age I invited a combination of ones who played with DD in our/their home, ones DD really wanted and a couple as I was good friends with their Mums and they played together because of that.

It happens to everyone OP, sometimes again and again and again. There are threads about here every day. You do have to toughen up, but at least you're taking that on board.