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Taxi vomit

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Standingonmytippytoes · 31/01/2016 23:08

So this weekend I was at a work do. Went to a colleagues house that I get on with to get ready before hand all fine. We had a few drinks she was a little bit worse for wear but she decided she was coming, no problem.

Long story short she was sick in the taxi, the driver was understandably annoyed and obviously had to charge a valet charge he refused to take her home, would only take her to the venue so we battered on. I asked her where her cash was she was incapable of getting it herself, repeatedly told her she had to pay the driver the valet charge and paid the man.

Went to the Loo's I helped clean her up. Then another colleague came and to be honest I left them to it while I went to say hello to everyone I had quickly ran past to clean her up. I checked on her again but she was outside getting air so continued with my evening soon enough she was sick again and went home but not before she told everyone I had taken her money and gave me the most evil glares from a cross the room.
I thought she was just drunk and in the morning she'd wake up and realise how silly she'd been.
She didn't she berated me for not "chipping" in for the valet and for ditching her for the 20 minutes she was there.
So aibu should I offer her the money? I feel if you're sick in a taxi you pay.

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BYOSnowman · 31/01/2016 23:49

Does she cling to you at work too? Is she new?

It seems odd that she would complain you 'ditched' her - that's the kind of thing a partner who has been dragged to a work do might say, not a co worker

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Standingonmytippytoes · 31/01/2016 23:54

She's not new she's actually management.

I'm not the only one who got messaged today though she was sick in the restaurant also and she's not happy that there were complaints about the smell.

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BYOSnowman · 01/02/2016 00:00

Ha ha - she sounds priceless! I wonder if she is so embarrassed she doesn't know what to do so keeps trying to deflect and doesn't realise she's making an even bigger dick of herself

Ignore and don't socialis with her again!

Viviennemary · 01/02/2016 00:02

I don't think you should pay as you weren't the one who was sick in the taxi. But how much did the pair of you drink before you even got to the event. This was a bit more than silly IMHO. I would steer clear of her in future. Let her be somebody else's problem.

ilovesooty · 01/02/2016 00:03

She's not exactly helping herself here is she?

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Standingonmytippytoes · 01/02/2016 00:10

vivien The pair of us? I was there to get ready not drunk.

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ohnoppp · 01/02/2016 00:13

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MardyGrave · 01/02/2016 00:14

oh dear, Ive known a few little madams like this. Ignore her, everyone can see she's being stupid, if they don't then they are a little madam too.

Topseyt · 01/02/2016 00:37

She sounds like a total arse.

No way should you have had to pay the valet costs. You were right to make her pay that.

She was still being sick in the restaurant!!!! How lovely for all the other diners and embarrassing for her colleagues.

She is in a hole now and seems to want to keep digging. Leave her to it.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 01/02/2016 00:39

Okay she got drunk and vomited. She's not the first and she most certainly won't be the last, but Why should you contribute

Marniasmum · 01/02/2016 00:40

Ugh! Distance yourself, now!

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Standingonmytippytoes · 01/02/2016 00:43

I can't really distance myself though. She has the manager in her back pocket. She controls the rota. She can make my life hell if she so chooses and then make me seem unreasonable if I were to complain.

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lorelei9 · 01/02/2016 00:45

You're not the only one who got messaged today? So what was she whining about when she messaged other people?

Is she your manager?

Btw if this is the kind of workplace where this sort of thing is normal, don't socialise with them. That kind of drama isn't just a waste of time but often means that petty stuff that occurs outside work affects work....well I suppose some people find it entertaining but if you don't, then don't soicialise with them.

I actually think she should be fired but workplaces increasingly don't care about this kind of thing.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 01/02/2016 00:46

It doesn't matter where she has the manager bullying on the work place is a breach of unemployment laws and your manager has a legal duty of care to you

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/02/2016 00:46

That is not ideal.

Hopefully she'll chill out, she probably feels like an idiot and as you were the most sober of the group, perhaps feels you're judging her (which you are but not for the reasons she thinks!).

kawliga · 01/02/2016 01:08

She controls the rota. She can make my life hell if she so chooses

Ok, this is scary, but calm down, stand your ground, and don't give in. If she's the kind of person who would be this unfair then two things are true:

She would have been unfair to you at work anyway, if not for this reason then for some other random reason
If she's this unfair and unreasonable she will soon expose herself, bet she behaves like that with others too and soon everyone will see her for what she is.

I know what it's like to have an unreasonable person in power over you at work, very scary.

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 01/02/2016 02:13

She sounds bonkers, needs to grow up and take responsibility for herself. Perhaps she thinks it's normal to get so drunk that you are chucking up in the taxi on the way to a club? Most people don't, so of course she should pay for the extra valet expense. And the money for the meal she missed out on? Nuts, totally bizarre perspective.

ICJump · 01/02/2016 02:17

I would give a call to HR and explain what's happen. That way if there issues further down the line you have some protection

leelu66 · 01/02/2016 11:08

Was she asking money from you for the meal as well?

Sometimes I wish I had balls this big.

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Standingonmytippytoes · 01/02/2016 14:39

I assume someone told her there was £50 left at the end of the meal which I left for who ever had stayed before I went home.

I just couldn't believe it when I woke up the next morning to that txt message.
I honestly thought she'd wake up mortified the next day full of apologies.
I know I would of.

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wowfudge · 01/02/2016 14:44

I think I would be inclined to respond to her text as though you think she is joking and set out the facts for her.

CoraPirbright · 01/02/2016 14:53

Why on earth should you chip in for the valet?? Your part of the taxi ride, of course (by which I mean if you booked a cab, they told you it would be e.g. £20 so you agreed to go halves so a tenner each) but why on earth should you pay because she got so drunk she vomited?? You didn't force her to drink!! And I wouldn't worry about her telling people you took her money - I am sure that they saw the situation for what it was (or possibly mention it to a couple of the people you are close to in the office if you are worried). Don't pay!! And def as BYOSnowman suggests - distance yourself as she sounds like she has elasticated morals.

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