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AIBU to think this is so rude of this parent?

28 replies

Dreamonastar · 31/01/2016 12:59

I was picking her child up for a sports activity this morning and got a text back thanking me for this and adding that I could drop her off at work, helpfully giving me the place where she works and its postcode Shock

If she'd asked as a favour I wouldn't be Shock by the way, but she TOLD me id be taking her there!

OP posts:
Diamogs · 31/01/2016 13:00

That is a bit cheeky, what if you had to go straight on from her house to somewhere else and the detour to work had delayed you?

Veritat · 31/01/2016 14:01

Did it mean you had to go out of your way? If so, I'd have texted back saying "Sorry, I haven't got time to go there. If you've got no-one at home I'll take her back with me and you can arrange for someone to collect her - I have to go out again in half an hour".

RidersOnTheStorm · 31/01/2016 14:05

Very rude. YANBU.

theycallmemellojello · 31/01/2016 14:06

Depends if it's vastly further off than her home. If you'd already agreed to take the kid home, she probably didn't think it'd be any more trouble to take her to a different destination. It obviously would have been much more polite to ask, but I don't think that it's Shockworthy, unless she works in another town or something.

Original poster
Dreamonastar · 31/01/2016 14:09

It isn't very far but I was genuinely shocked at the text which assumed I'd be taking her to work afterwards.

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originalmavis · 31/01/2016 14:14

Where were you supposed to take the child?

theycallmemellojello · 31/01/2016 14:22

Had she originally asked you to take her home, or was it just agreed that you'd pick her up? If the latter it could be a misunderstanding - she thought you'd agreed to pick the child up but that the drop-off point had not been agreed, you thought that you'd agreed to pick the child up and take her home.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 31/01/2016 14:47

Was taking her to the work place a detour?

Battleshiphips2 · 31/01/2016 15:00

I am a bit confused (I am a lot these days!). Are you dropping the daughter or mother off at work?

theycallmemellojello · 31/01/2016 15:03

Ohh wait it hadn't occurred to me to read it how battleships is reading it... I thought you were dropping the daughter at work instead of home. If you were expected to drop the daughter home and then pick up the mother to take her to work that is indeed very unreasonable and I see where the Shock comes from!

OzzieFem · 31/01/2016 15:13

It sounds more like the OP was to pick the daughter up for the sports activity and the mother decided to hitch a free ride to work at the same time when you look at it from Battleshipship2 viewpoint.

If so OP is not being unreasonable to think this is rude.

Floggingmolly · 31/01/2016 15:19

Were you actually supposed to be collecting the child as well as dropping her off?

Floggingmolly · 31/01/2016 15:21

Oh, hang on. When you dropped the child home, you're then expected to take the Mum to work, is that it?
Or is it dropping the child at Mum's work because Mum is there instead of at home (obviously)? I'm Confused

Thetruthfairy · 31/01/2016 15:24

Yes, totally rude. No "would you mind...?"
Gosh, the nerve of some people.

Veritat · 31/01/2016 15:30

Ah, got it now. Yes, assuming you would both drop her daughter off and give her a lift to work without asking is the height of rudeness. I'd definitely tell her that I couldn't do it.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 31/01/2016 15:34

I think op means that the other parent expects her to pick her daughter up again after the sporting activity (having already taken her there) and drop her off at her place of work, instead of taking her home.

Battleshiphips2 · 31/01/2016 15:40

Grin glad to see I could confuse some other poor people too! I am blaming it on a huge child stopping me from getting enough oxygen into my lungs!

BertrandRussell · 31/01/2016 15:44

Why is this a problem? Is it miles out of the way?

lilproblem · 31/01/2016 16:04

Would the child be going back home with you if not to her office?

SatsukiKusakabe · 31/01/2016 16:05

If she is asking you to drop the child off at her work instead of home and giving you the postcode so you know where you would be going, then can't see any problem with her asking this; not especially rude and you can always say no.

But if it is the mum cadging a lift, with an air of expectation rather than as an apologetic last minute request then that's ridiculously rude.

Original poster
Dreamonastar · 31/01/2016 16:46

It was the parent hitching a free ride to wo as well that had me Shock

I was taking child to place A; place B (workplace) is nearby and mother texted to say 'we live at 1 high street Hank's for taking child to place A ill be going to place B afterwards the postcode is XX1 1XX see you soon'

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 31/01/2016 16:50

Very cheeky, I bet your face was a picture.

PersephonePitstop · 31/01/2016 16:52

Very rude! Shock
Did you do it?

Original poster
Dreamonastar · 31/01/2016 16:56

I took her to the place I was taking her son to and chucked her out there Blush

If she'd asked I'd have happily taken her to work.

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Diamogs · 31/01/2016 19:25

Oh wow I thought you were just dropping the child to her workplace (where she would be waiting) afterwards.

I didn't realise that she was expecting you to take her to work as well, cheeky woman!!

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