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To think not another bloody Facebook challenge!

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MrsOlaf78 · 30/01/2016 23:00

I don't mind the charity ones but it's these other pointless ones that turn my feed into a sea of monotony. The latest one seems to be:

Motherhood Challenge: I was nominated to post 5 pictures that make me happy to be a Mother. I'm tagging 10 people that I think are great Mothers to post 5 pictures for the Motherhood Challenge! I will copy and paste this in the comments below for you. Here are my 5 pictures that make me happy to be a mother x

Pass the sick bucket purlease!! So the mothers you didn't nominate aren't good mothers in your opinion?! Honestly do Facebook invent these things to get all these egotistical lemmings to use their site even more?! I'm waiting for the "post something vaguely interesting challenge!"

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Damselindestress · 30/01/2016 23:29

Some of my friends are doing this, I think it's quite cute and have enjoyed seeing their photos with their DC. I can't stand the sort of Facebook challenges that are basically, 'post something stupid on your status in support of breast cancer' but I don't mind seeing photos of friends that mean a lot to them, that's what Facebook is for! You don't have to take part and just because people have nominated friends they think are good mothers it doesn't follow that they think anyone they haven't nominated is a bad mother! I think you're overthinking it.

Scaredycat3000 · 30/01/2016 23:33

Yeh I'm a shit Mother, nobody will pick me.

elfish · 30/01/2016 23:40

I posted pics of wine - got a lot of likes!

cdtaylornats · 30/01/2016 23:41

Use the same approach I used for the ice bucket challenge

"No, Fuck off"

magpie17 · 30/01/2016 23:45

I don't like it. A friend nominated me but I just ignored it, I have several friends and family members who are struggling with infertility and pregnancy losses and this just smacks of gloating. "It's not enough that I get to have my lovely baby, but I'm going to rub it in your face by showing you what a special 'club' I'm part of that you are excluded from". Not for me.

cornishglos · 30/01/2016 23:48

Brilliant. If I get nominated I'll post wine too. Wondered how to handle this stupid one.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/01/2016 23:49

This is the picture that makes me happy to be a mother!

To think not another bloody Facebook challenge!

7Days · 31/01/2016 00:05

Like PP said just ignore stupid/boring stuff. Be inconspicious on fb, don't be liking shit all the time. People will think you just come on for 10 minutes every 3 days.

lildottie · 31/01/2016 20:43

So glad I'm not the only one who finds this ridiculous. I'm fortunate to be pg from our 2nd ivf cycle after 3years if infertility and a mc from first ivf cycle. If this had been going around 12 months ago I'd have been in pieces every time it darkened my news feed. It's one thing for ppl to put up pics to share with friends, its quite another to bombard everyone's newsfeeds with it, especially when my friends likes come up for their friends posts on top of my friends posts!

PaulAnkaTheDog · 31/01/2016 20:47

I was tagged in it. I posted a picture of wine, one of my bed and another of wine.

Savagebeauty · 31/01/2016 20:48

I said I was a shit mother and could think of nothing redeeming about being one

Adixy84 · 31/01/2016 22:00

It's stupid and insensitive to all those people on my friends list who have been trying to have children for years! Why do you need a stranger to tell you that you're a great mom because I would rather it came from my children who I'm mother too. Motherhood will always be challenge no matter how old your children get.

Penfold2015 · 31/01/2016 22:26

Have to admit as someone who would desperately love to be a mum I couldn't resist but post a different tribute to the Aunties who will never be a mum. I normally can resist the constant slap in the face and ignore responding in what I would like to say, but had enough of the constant ego boosting posts currently. Did it make me feel better... Sorry but hell yeah!

Samcro · 31/01/2016 22:28

that shite is all over my fb, same people doing it\I HATE IT
so have just posted that.....and a bit more nice stuff

JemmaPell · 31/01/2016 23:56

I'm ignoring too - what utter crap next!?!
Besides I'm put out that a close friend has nominated her neighbours who she barely knows yet hasn't nominated

JemmaPell · 31/01/2016 23:56

*me

MrsJamin · 01/02/2016 21:06

I hate this meme so much. A single friend of mine has shared how crap it makes her feel. All it is is an excuse to gloat about your mothering and your children - as if most people don't do that enough already! No one is standing up to it and saying "no, this is shit, why would I do this and continue this crap. I mean it's as bad as chain letters to make people feel guilty for putting a stop to something ridiculous. Don't take part!

vladthedisorganised · 02/02/2016 00:28

Nope, nobody nominated me either.
There's a 'Doggy Mummy' one doing the rounds too.

Personally I post pictures of my plants when the 'wonderful parent/ spouse/ daughter/ sister' thing comes up; works for me. I bet nobody will nominate me this time around, even though the hyacinths are coming up nicely at the moment and would make a lovely FB photo..

Kryptonite · 02/02/2016 00:41

This has been all over my FB lately, and I haven't been tagged. Couldn't care less, either.
I can't get worked up about not posting in these kinds of things just in case someone gets upset if they can't have children, or have recently lost one though.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you can't stop people from posting about their lives and what's important to them. That's what Facebook's for. Sharing your news.
If you had to stop and think about whether anyone could potentially take offence or be upset at anything you posted, where would you stop?!
Its a place for sharing news.
"Just bought my first house, and got my keys! Whoohoo, can't wait to move in."

HootOnTheBeach · 02/02/2016 01:11

I saw one that said 3 and this woman posted 15 because she just couldn't choose!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🎉

MrsJamin · 02/02/2016 07:22

It's not just normal Facebook though, because of the nomination thing, it purposefully excludes those who aren't mothers, or who were but their children died. Some friends of mine are genuinely upset by this particular thing.

QueenCarpetJewels · 03/02/2016 01:41

I've only seen 2 friends involved in this so far. One is a mum who has posted 5 lovely pics of her children, only viewable by her friends.

The other is a dad (A) who has been nominated by another dad I don't know (B). 'A' hasn't shared any pics yet, but because he's tagged in 'B's post, I can see the pics of 'B's young children in the bath, even though I don't know 'B' at all.

So that's what pisses me off about this so-called challenge. People posting pictures of their small children in the nude, presumably without those childrens' consent, and without any privacy settings in place. Presumably you wouldn't post nude pics of your DH or DW on FB without consent or privacy settings, so why is it OK to post them of your DC?

And why the hell is it a 'challenge' to post pics of things/people that make you smile anyway?
Fucks sake.

PrincessMouse · 03/02/2016 06:16

Another reminder of why I deactivated my FB account last May. Why do people get involved in these ridiculous "challenges". What a pile of utter rubbish.

Shutthatdoor · 03/02/2016 06:25

I just think with things like this people have to be careful who they 'tag' in.

One of my 'friends' has just caused a bit of upset over this as one of the friends she tagged in is having fertility issues and has just been told the chance of her becoming a mum is very slim and another has just had a very traumatic miscarriage.

They knew about this.

bigbuttons · 03/02/2016 06:51

I've seen this my feed. The women concerned are really chuffed that they have been nominated!
Luckily no one nominates me for anything as they know I hardly ever post and won't take part anyway.

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