To accept a friend request from a boyfriend if nearly 30 years ago?!!

[Janus]

Today I got a friend request from my first ever boyfriend, I was 16 then, I am 45 now!!! I haven't accepted as not sure if I 'should'. I am curious to see how he is but I have no feelings for him, I'm not going to run off from my husband and 4 children!! Husband is away but know he wouldn't mind and he would see we are now friends as we are friends on Facebook too. We live in opposite ends of the country so we will never meet up.
What do you think?

Not friends with any on FB - Twitter allows the odd bit of under the radar stalking if I feel like it. Teenage boyfriend is now in Oz and mostly posts dull motivational tweets about work, seminars he's attending, podcasts he's appearing on, etc. He seems to think he's some kind of business guru. He always was dull!

Ex from my 20s lives in Europe and has turned into a hipster. A lot of angry tweets - again, he always was very angry...

I would add him and give him a chance but every time an ex has added me its always started with harmless chat then turned to "I'm not really happy with my wife..." Why do they do it?!

I accepted a friend request from the boyfriend I had at 18. It was fine for a while, we chatted and caught up. Then he started stalking me online and sending loads of very sexually explicit messages and sending messages to my friends. It went on for years and I had to call the police.

I wouldn't accept his request if I thought he was in any way a weirdo and some of my ex's I would definitely put in that category!! I still haven't accepted though!

I did with my first ever Bf, we have some nice chats on FB and like some posts etc. He's married, two kids, I am gay and getting married in May and he's so pleased for me. We have a lot of friends in common so often comment on their posts too.

I am fb friends with my first "proper" boyfriend. It was never a sexual relationship though which may make a difference. We were old enough to legally have sex, but we just didnt.

He and his wife emigrated some years ago and they are visiting the UK soon and we hope to get together, with spouses, for a catch up. I think a lot depends on the nature of the relationship you had back then.

I am not friends on FB with anyone I have had a sexual relationship with, I havent thought about it until now, but I wouldnt feel comfortable about it I dont think. Ex has never sent any inappropriate messages and I would instantly defriend if he did.

Don't see your problem but if you are thinking this much about him I wouldn't to be honest.

If you were that laid back and not bothered you would have just added him.

You are way over thinking it, it was 30 years ago

I probably would, out of curiosity. I have several harmless exes on FB, who have got in touch at various stages over the years, but only one ever got flirty and all I had to do was block him. The rest of them are exactly the same as old schoolfriends - a few direct messages at the start to catch up, and then they just fade into the general newsfeed of kiddie pictures and all the rest. It isn't a big deal unless one of you makes it that way.

I've had the very occasional nosey but that was it - nothing more. Sending you a request is just ......odd.

I'd ignore it.

I'm fb friends with several ex boyfriends, some I haven't seen for about 25 years.
There's nothing weird at all, usually just because they (or me) will have been idly searching or your name popped up in memory / conversation / mutual friend.

It's only weird if you make it weird IMO.

I did it!!
He hasn't changed a bit (that's not fair!!). He has an absolutely beautiful wife and 2 children. It doesn't feel odd at all looking at them (I think I was worried it would).

He was literally my first boyfriend, I went out with him for a year. I thought it may just feel a bit weird but actually it doesn't. This may sound odd but I'm glad he looks so happy and content.

Thanks for all your replies!