DH has been on reduced hours since October last year, he was told about the drop in the August, and has lost 40% of his (higher) salary. He initially began job hunting in the August and had a few interviews but no job offers. In November his DM died, so I didn’t mention the job hunting for a while however he returned to work in December.
We have been really struggling for money. His drop in income has left us £900 per month worse off, although the nursery fees have dropped by £400 as he has the DCs on his days off, £500 is still a large drop in income when we were already struggling by. I’ve had several conversations with him about taking up the job hunt again, including letting him know our local police force is recruiting as of this week (he’s often said during the time I’ve known him that he’d love to be a police officer). Nothing. Added to this that he does very little around the house when he’s at home, always blaming the DCs and saying it’s impossible to get anything done with them around. He also frequently complains that they’re hard work – well, they’re 4 and nearly 2 so I’m not sure what he was expecting.
I made a comment during a conversation about the lack of money that I feel as though I’m going to have to start doing overtime at work on weekends (I work Monday – Friday 8.30-5) to try and drive it home to him how difficult our situation is. He has now seized onto this and is constantly pestering me to start working Saturday and Sunday 8-2. My only two days off with my children, whilst he continues to sit on his arse for four days a week.
I’m trying so hard not to lose my temper with him. So very hard. But this isn’t what I signed up for when we married and agreed to have children. AIBU to think he needs to start making a real effort to get a new job? When I wanted to change jobs I was firing off 5-10 applications a day and it took me six weeks to be in a new role, it just feels as though his half hearted effort isn’t getting him anywhere.