Tell me I am not BU? That a lawyer I'm consulting on delicate divorce business shouldn't talk like this, but should keep a professional manner? - I told him I'm newly out of a horrendous abusive & controlling marriage, where (with low self esteem) I just accepted everything my exdh said as gospel & deferred to him in everything (he controlled all the £, what roads I drove down, what I wore, ate etc etc - yes I was a muppet, but that's all changed now I've woken up & divorced). The lawyer looks straight at me and says 'Wow, do you realise you're every mans fantasy - a woman who does what she's told' !!!!! WTF? I'm 
In my shock I replied 'Not any more I'm not.' Tell me you're shocked too?