To not want threadworms in my home!?

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DPs ExW sent the 3 DSC to us this weekend, even though two of them have threadworms. She only treated the two which have them (5 minutes before DP picked them up) and not the other, or anyone else in her household.

AIBU to think that this is a total disregard to my daughter (4) as well as me and my DP?

I asked DP if he would mind staying at his Mums house as I didn't want my daughter to catch them, he agreed but reluctantly.

On his return I asked DP to take a tablet too, just incase.

His ExW, Mum and even DP to a certain degree are treating it as a common cold and obviously don't realise how contagious it can be.

AIBU here?

What?! My DSS's have turned up with every ailment under the sun because they're kids!! Not only do yours have to cope with the ignominy that is worms, they are also banished from your home for it.
Presumably when (and it is a when) your little darlings pick something similar up you'll go off to your mum's with them to protect your DSC, yes??

YABU. Threadworms are not pleasant, but they are essentially harmless and I don't even think any nursery or school excludes kids for having them.

If a nursery/school wouldn't exclude a child for having worms, why should you?

You do sound a little unreasonable. He is their dad and so his home should feel like their home too, even when they are unhealthy or inconvenient.

Thread words are a pain in the bum (literally) but sadly like nits and colds they are always with us and part of the price we pay for mixing with other people, not living like hermits. Dose. Everyone up and hope for the best.

Op, I wouldn't even bother reading this thread anymore.
You have overreacted but some of the posters reactions here are silly.
I treat threadworms using the hygiene method fwiw xxx

I have already said that yes it seems I was being unreasonable and in future I will take precautions and deal with it. I knew nothing of threadworms and Google didn't reassure me it was common and easily rid of!!

Not wanting my DSD and DD to catch them was my concern, but if like you all say they are harmless and easily rid of then ok I made a mistake.

This does not mean I am some wicked stepmother or that my DD is "precious". I simply wasn't aware that they don't really pose a threat. So thanks to everyone who replied without making passing comments about my "precious daughter" or me disliking my step children. Which I don't, I love and care for them very much.

Some people really are too quick to judge, and for the record I brought the medicine and treated everyone, including my DSD.

YANBU to be irritated by your DH's ex's cavalier attitude to threadworm treatment.

YWBVU to ask your SDC to stay elsewhere.

But reading your last post I now see you didn't know how common and easy to treat they are.

Well nobody wants thread worms in the house they are unpleasant but treat everybody and take the precautions and you all be fine

I don't think they're as bad as head lice. If you practice good hygiene, bleach the toilet, make sure hands and nails are washed and bedding and underwear washed at high temp you can deal with it. If it was head lice you'd have more to be worried about!

Glad you realise you were being U though!

""His ExW, Mum and even DP to a certain degree are treating it as a common cold ""

They're easier to deal with than a cold and less bothersome, if you catch them early.

My DD, at 18, recently had a bout, don't know where they came from, she just picked them up, she has no contact with any children, but goes to collage.

You're really going to have to address your issue with 'parasites', your reaction was OTT and hopefully your DH can stop your ridiculous attitude being passed on to both sets of children.

This is mumsnet, don't expect sympathy.

If you had been casual about the other kids, you would have been shut down in flame. You are worried about your own child, then you are being attacked from all sides.

Of course, you are not unreasonable to be worried. You asked for advice, you received some, hopefully you are more relax now.

A mother is never wrong by putting her own kids first. In real life, most people do! It's a shame some are so bitter that they are quick to invent problems that don't exist!

Sorry but they're his children, it was his time to have them. Just got to deal with it. He can't choose to parent dependent on their health.

I didn't want them in my house either bit dd3 age 6 pulled one out of her but sigh.

It's onto threadworms FFS and they are his children!

Okay. OP if you're still here, ignore google.

I'm not surprised how you reacted if you googled! There are a couple of people who tell nightmare stories about threadworms and they are all over the net. I suspect this unfortunate person does not have threadworms, but another parasite entirely, and that is why medication isn't working. But that is a side issue.

You need a family size (6 doses) bottle of liquid Ovex (I'm assuming you have children who can't swallow tablets). Dose everyone (you, husband, each of the kids) and wash the towels and bedding. It'll be less than a fiver and if you buy it at Boots you'll get Boots points.

Then, in two weeks' time, buy another bottle and give everyone another dose. You may not need to do another dose, but it's recommended; I would do the second dose for peace of mind, so I'm betting you would too.

They just as likely got them off your dd as she'll catch them of them.

the nhs advice is to hoover everything. especially bedding and mattresses. do not shake the bedding as it send the eggs into the air.

wash all bedding and cuddly toys.

anything that can not be washed can be bin-bagged for three weeks as this is the length that the worm eggs live.

cut the childrens nails and teach them to scrub nails. and wash hands really well.

sometimes you can so all that and they come back. sometimes you do not do all that and they do not.

wear underwear to bed. and clean underwear in the morning. shower or bathe or wash bottoms in the morning.