To be struggling with pregnancy

[Colddayonthebeach]

I am single and 9 weeks pregnant and really struggling. I am sick all the time, even when not retching or vomiting I feel it, am exhausted and can't sleep.

I feel this should be a happy time but it's awful.

Has anyone been through similar and was ok when they gave birth?

I felt the same with the first. Coupled with guilt that I wasn't enjoying it enough, complete fear that I was going to be in charge of a new life, anxiety that something would happen and every symptom was abnormal. No one tells you this stuff really, it's all roses because no one wants to admit it's not always great. If I'd had one person say to me "hey, I hated being pregnant too" I might have felt better. Afterwards I never thought I'd have another. But I'm pregnant now and it could not have been more different. None of the previous symptoms at all. Talk to someone and you'll find that there's lots of support

Didn't really enjoy my pregnancy OP in the early stages. Vomited every day. Utterly miserable but it does get better cx

I found pregnancy very tough. I had HG and was sick every day for 9months, but the constant nausea lifted a bit by 20weeks. Get some meds if it doesn't improve soon- metoclopramide and ondansetron helped me. Cyclizine works for some.
I also had severe SPD.

It was like being ill for 9months. I struggled to so simple things like wash my hair or climb stairs. I was exhausted and couldn't sleep.

But it was all worth it. Unlike many illnesses, pregnancy comes to an end and you will feel like yourself again. You'll get your life back. My DS is 5months now and I'm planning a couple more!

I'm also 9 weeks pregnant and I feel awful. It's bloody hard work and it doe make the excitement slightly fade. BUT I had the same with my first and honestly once the sickness and exhaustion went I felt amazing. The rest of my pregnancy I felt healthy and excited. And my goodness the reward at the end makes it so, so worthwhile. It's just hard to imagine that reward when you're in it. But you'll look back and think it was over quite quickly really (at least I did which is why I wanted another baby!!) Good luck

Morning sickness is rubbish. I found that eating made me feel better, that was the only thing.

I felt awful in my first pregnancy. I could barely put anything in my mouth. The only foods I could eat for months without starting dry reteching were small amounts of things like pot noodles. I was starving but too nauseous to eat. It was a horrible cycle. Cookies helped give me some energy. I gained bump early on and had to go into maternity clothes from 8 weeks, but was losing weight at the same time and I didn't have much to spare to start. My body was drained. At 8 weeks, I went faint while teaching. The next day I had a panic attack as I had a bleed. That abruptly ended a good run of casual supply work. I was lucky to get part time work a week later. Fortunately they were accommodating of me lying down and dozing between lessons. When I got home, I'd sleep for 2 hours. My body felt completely consumed by exhaustion and nausea until about 16 weeks until the SPD was ready to kick in.

Pregnancy can often be physically miserable in the first 3-4 months.

You sound particularly down, and it's worth talking to the MW for support. It's not a judgement. Getting help at this stage can help long term.

Hope the symptoms ease off soon xxx

Oh OP, I really feel for you.

I hated the first few months of my pregnancy with a passion. I felt awful, sick, and just miserable and spent a lot of time in tears. It started getting better around 4 months though. I'm 32 weeks now and feeling so much better than I was at the start. I wouldn't say I'm enjoying it exactly, but it's mostly fine.

I hope you start feeling better soon.