Ive known this Mum for a while now, we get on well and our DCs are the same age.
My DS is pretty well behaved but when he does play up something is done about it where as this Mum's DS will play up and gets away it. She lets him run around in public, causing havoc and getting in people's way and says nothing.
When she does it's usually just screaming his name repeatedly. Lately it's this "DS, GO AND STAND BY TITFUL NOW!!". Why? I am not his Mum, I am not going to tell him off. I feel no need for him to stand with me or hold my hand instead of hers.
I find the way she controls her child in public embarrassing and worry that when we are seen together people will tar me with the same brush.
Today for example, whilst waiting for a bus a couple pushed in the queue. I did the typical British thing of raising my eyebrows and saying nothing, as far as I'm concerned it was rude but they're not going to take up the entire bus. Friend opted for this instead. Screaming loudly and passive aggressively "OH, WHATS THAT TITFUL? THEYVE PUSHED IN THE QUEUE WHEN WE WERE STOOD HERE FIRST?". Everyone heard this, everyone looked in our direction and as a introvert this embarrassed me massively. I turned to her and said as long as I can sit with DS it's no big deal and told her to calm down.
A lady joined the queue behind us and I noticed she'd actually been waiting before us but sat to the side. I said she was here before me and gestured for her to go in front for her to say "are you sure your mate won't shout at me?". I just laughed and said I hope not! But it left me quite flustered because I assume this lady had lumped me in as being like my "mate" too.
AIBU to want to just stop bothering with this Mum when it's just the two of us? She's so loud and gobby, two things I have never been and would hate for people to assume of me. There are times when we're out i wish the ground would swallow me whole.